Our parents ITR may influence what we think of as a ‘healthy’ relationship too..my parents are supervision so perhaps a relationship with clearly defined roles appeals to me for example..
Semi-duality for example always seemed weird to me. I did briefly consider dating a semi-dual in the past but only one.. as a hypothetical idea, semi-duality doesn’t instantly appeal. Could be to do with the fact my parents relationship appears a little cold (unlike semi-duals).
i have thought about it enough to know it could work but that’s taken a lot of thinking