So, How to date a dual and do I have one or is duality a myth?

[PrettySavage]

I'll never understand why people are so obsessed with their romantic lives. With all the power that typology can give a person if well understood and applied, and yet somehow finding an ideal girlfriend/boyfriend seems to be the focal point of this forum. If as much time and energy was spent trying to use the theory to better themselves as discussing romantic and sexual prospects of the types, the level would of intellectual discussion on this forum would be impressive. As Ron Weasley says (the Socionics community being Hermione here):

[squark]

I'll never understand why people are so obsessed with their romantic lives. With all the power that typology can give a person if well understood and applied, and yet somehow finding an ideal girlfriend/boyfriend seems to be the focal point of this forum. If as much time and energy was spent trying to use the theory to better themselves as discussing romantic and sexual prospects of the types, the level would of intellectual discussion on this forum would be impressive. As Ron Weasley says (the Socionics community being Hermione here):

Part of that imo is because it's easier for people to believe that the solution to everything is out there somewhere, and if just the right person comes along, then everything will be okay and they'll be happy. It's much harder to take a look at yourself, to take an honest look at your own strengths and weaknesses, and find the solutions to your problems through yourself. So instead of a person's polr being something they learn to recognize and deal with - it becomes an excuse (or a target to attack in others) and instead of their ego fxns being used to help themselves and others, they become nothing but a label, an identity to talk about. It's making everyone else deal with your problems while being unwilling to deal with them yourself. But it can be very hard to face some things about yourself, and even harder (at least for me ha) to accept any kind of help, or even admit when it's needed.

[PrettySavage]

Part of that imo is because it's easier for people to believe that the solution to everything is out there somewhere, and if just the right person comes along, then everything will be okay and they'll be happy. It's much harder to take a look at yourself, to take an honest look at your own strengths and weaknesses, and find the solutions to your problems through yourself. So instead of a person's polr being something they learn to recognize and deal with - it becomes an excuse (or a target to attack in others) and instead of their ego fxns being used to help themselves and others, they become nothing but a label, an identity to talk about. It's making everyone else deal with your problems while being unwilling to deal with them yourself. But it can be very hard to face some things about yourself, and even harder (at least for me ha) to accept any kind of help, or even admit when it's needed.

Well put, that's precisely the kind of reasoning I can't understand, it's really so childish. Not only is magical thinking, which I abhore in itself, but it also implies giving all your power away, to a "more capable" person who will (or should), naturally, fall in love with you because the way you brain works make you made for each other

I get that none of us whatever type we are, Logical or Ethical, are objective all the time, but when rational logic goes out the window like this...I clearly am far from the level of understanding needed to deal with it. So far I can't even see it

yeah IEIs are hueg lol

like, really big people

it makes sense when you consider the trends of rising bodyweight around the globe as well as IEI prevalence

THEY ARE, my bff is 6'2" and I'm 5'3". Quite broad too, and I like when there's more to hug

[Bertrand]

lets keep this on topic guys, this thread is now about Adam's taste in women and what his various urges may mean

this is definitely not Si Ne axis Ne seeking either, so let's keeps things focused on techniques to secure a dual. my suggestion: kidnapping option 2) bribery

option 99999999999 becoming an attractive person

actually scratch that last one, I said no Ne

[PrettySavage]

lets keep this on topic guys, this thread is now about Adam's taste in women and what his various urges may mean

this is definitely not Si Ne axis Ne seeking either, so let's keeps things focused on techniques to secure a dual. my suggestion: kidnapping option 2) bribery

option 99999999999 being an attractive person

actually scratch that last one, I said no Ne

Lol, look at you playing LSI, it's cute

Confirmed I'm not EIE. Technique used to achieve the conclusion: I personally resent Ber's interference in our derail. Wait, does that mean I value + ? Maybe I'm IEE after all

[Beautiful sky]

I'll never understand why people are so obsessed with their romantic lives. With all the power that typology can give a person if well understood and applied, and yet somehow finding an ideal girlfriend/boyfriend seems to be the focal point of this forum. If as much time and energy was spent trying to use the theory to better themselves as discussing romantic and sexual prospects of the types, the level would of intellectual discussion on this forum would be impressive. As Ron Weasley says (the Socionics community being Hermione here):

Lol sooo Fi devaluing

In any case

Get on a dating site
State your mbti and Socionics type make sure they are the same as in no j/p switch
Ask to date the dual and state that mbti type
Someone of that type will find you

[Bethanyclaire]

Lol sooo Fi devaluing

In any case

Get on a dating site
State your mbti and Socionics type make sure they are the same as in no j/p switch
Ask to date the dual and state that mbti type
Someone of that type will find you

Not bad advice... Did not think of it..

I like your pic btw.

[PrettySavage]

Says the supposed sx first.

But I understand where you're coming from with those select few people who straight up refuse to date anyone who isn't a dual. Usually what just ends up happening is that these people often mistype others who they are attracted to as duals in pursuit of said dual.

If you think that being Sx first (and I was typed by other members as Sx/Sp and I'm an 8 lol) is about obsessing over love or finding your "other half", then your understanding of the Enneagram is based on "alternative facts".

What is it with people being so easily triggered and offended by anyone who points out an overly obvious and very much discussed fact? My comment shouldn't bother you in the least. I don't get it, unless you're one of those people I mentioned. In which case you shouldn't let me spoil you're fun. Have fun dualizing

[PrettySavage]

Lol, chill dude. If you want to be sx/sp then be that. I was just pointing out the obvious contradiction. The only one who's apparently triggered here is you.

I'm a gal

And quite the opposite actually, I personally believe I'm Sx/So, but since people in my typing thread were so adamant I'm So last (because I don't conform ) I'm giving Sx/Sp a try. I'm not invested in the stackings at all actually, I think it's incredibly easy to mistake IMs for variants so there's that. I might change it back after I'm confident in my sociotype, but knowing my tritype is enough for me.

And I see now you're a 4 Sp/Sx...that explains things quite a bit I don't know whether your couldn't pick up that I wasn't being ironic at all with my last sentence and emoticon, (or if you're just resorting to the standard deflective statement "U mad, bro?" to save face) but really, I couldn't be chillier if I was hanging at Elsa's castle.

I'm always intense, which might come off as "angry" if you happen to be different or don't know me at all.