So, How to date a dual and do I have one or is duality a myth?

[silke]

,I am so new to this, I can't believe I'm asking this, but how does one find a dual in their age group? The first question should be, what is a dual and where and how do I find out what types are my dual. Does it really matter? What does one do if one loves someone who isn't their dual or doesn't believe in socionics. Maybe believing in Socionics isn't that important?

You have likely already met your dual. Many of them. Perhaps not in your close social circle, but among acquaintances and brief social interactions it is very likely that you've bumped into a few "duals" already. The next step is learning to recognize them as ime duals do tend to not notice each other, take each other as granted or natural. It's often asymmetric relations and types from other quadra that stand out like a sore thumb.

What does one do if one loves someone who isn't their dual or doesn't believe in socionics. Maybe believing in Socionics isn't that important?

Socionics doesn't substitute love or dictate for whom you should have feelings. Many have parents, children, relatives, and other significant people in their lives of non-dual types and this doesn't mean that they should not love and care for them. Socionics types are merely types of information metabolism, abbreviated as TIMs, and compatibility of how you process information merely makes it easier to communicate - which is a positive things for any relationship, but it doesn't have much to do with love. On Russian-speaking forums there are even threads titled something like "who have you left your dual for" as the socionics hobbyists there are well aware that socionics is not to be used to dictate one's love life and instead use the knowledge it gives to try to improve already existing relationships.