I can see how the stereotype of EIIs is this picture of shy cute girls all ethereal and made of pink cotton candy, but that might not really be the case in their looks, mostly because they often don't care much of "looks", that's more a Fe thing. Sure, they can spend time taking care of themselves and dress to impress too, but that won't be a habit. I think the stereotype though works well for romantic relationships, I see EIIs (or myself) as somewhat passive, subdued to the partner's whims and external emotional demonstrations.. not necessarily romantic ones (and this might be related to weak Se). I always feel like I have to please people around me, my partner even more, even at the cost of damaging myself in the process. Not healthy, not recommended and maybe even not a rule, but the "softness" of EII's manners to me just lies in the human interactions, often at EII's expense.