Quote Originally Posted by Adam Strange View Post
I'm not passive-aggressive. When I am aggressive, there is nothing passive about it. However.
I try to defuse conflict in those around me, and I avoid it myself, if possible. This may be a result of having to get along with one violent parent and having the other in the military, IDK. But I can easily see that conflict can easily escalate into physical violence, so I try not to go there if there is no real reason to do so.

To assert yourself means that you have to be ready to ride that car right to the logical end, and few things warrant that kind of response. Nothing here does.

The times when I get aggressive are about twice a year, when someone knowingly, purposefully (not ignorantly) threatens my livelihood or the company itself. Everything else is fluff.
Quote Originally Posted by Cassandra View Post
Don't you have a 9 fix?

Anyway...
LOL yes but I was just going by what he said above that you said sounded like like a balanced 8w7 or 8w9. I am not aggressive unless someone threatens what is mine but for me it would be relationships > possessions.

I was raised around violence too (my aunt and later the area I lived in). I had a parent in the military. My aunt was pretty aggressive + sadistic. My mom can be both aggressive and assertive, depending. She can also be passive aggressive when she doesn't know how to express her most tender feelings.

Like him, I can easily defuse conflict and tension. I am more assertive than aggressive though. He said he wishes he could be more assertive so I wondered if the women meant passive aggressive because he said "women have told me I'm very aggressive, but in a quiet, non-demonstrative way. Whatever that means."