Quote Originally Posted by Cassandra View Post
However, as you have alluded to, in reality many people are "hypersensitive" and extremely neurotic when they are unhealthy, so someone who is strong in their weak spots could generally feel like a threat to them, even when it is a Dual. This effect is especially strong if the person has had no to little Duality experience.

I've come across people like that before, and I used to be one of them: someone who strongly needs help from a Dual, but would not be receptive to it.
Relatedly, an LSE (whom I even recently called a close friend) has aggravated me to no end by assuming he is always right and I am always wrong, including on Fi matters. Even when I am basically telling him I agree with him on something, he finds a way to misinterpret my words such that I am wrong, because he appears to have some kind of innate belief that no one other than he can be right about anything. It's annoying in neutral situations like arguments where we were just using different definitions of a word, but it pisses me off to no end when he thinks he understands people's true motivations and feelings toward others better than I do. It also inspires pity because he can't even begin to fathom the difference between his 1D Fi and someone else's 4D Fi, but he's so childishly proud of what he thinks is his good Fi.

So yeah, I think immature individuals of all types are frustrating--doesn't matter if they're your dual or not. They are just frustrating in different ways.

I think it's pretty easy to tell the difference between conflictor/dual, regardless of health levels. I basically have nothing to talk about with an SLE; I've never gotten to a close enough psychological distance with an SLE where we care enough about each other to argue (can't imagine how stressful it would be to be forced to be close with a conflictor, e.g., a parent or something). I can talk with immature LSEs for hours still, but there is a lot of arguing or unheeded advice.