Fi leads: Fine, until we reach the point where I have crossed an invisible line (one of their
boundaries, I guess) and they will not want to speak to me ever again. Apart from that, as long as the interactions don't reach a ground that is "too emotionally close", it is really okay. Surface level interactions are better in general, less ground to conflict on. Focusing on shared interests and likes makes the interaction better, too. It is the easiest with Fi leads who are healthy E9, ime.
Certain Fi leads Online: They get really upset about some of my opinions for some reason and call me out on it, and then end up pointing out my "incompetency" (aka
PoLR) or "bad human nature" under any comment I make. Basically, being very passive-aggressive "haters". Usually find my opinions "not backed up" by enough credible
sources, so they point that out, while failing to respond with sound arguments themselves, which are purely based on emotion and little to no logic whatsoever.
All in all, I sometimes do not understand how certain Fi lead people get so worked up about (=offended by) certain things I am saying or doing. I am not a truly offensive person, I am mostly PC, but it still happens. Granted, I do not make an effort to not offend people. I do not necessarily "package" my opinions nicely. Anyhow, I find it difficult to figure out the entire blueprint of an Fi lead's personal Fi values, because they do not always talk about them, so it can be really hit or miss – in those cases, I can feel like the bull in a china shop, breaking all their Fi values without even knowing how or why and what is actually happening. And those Fi leads that are truly militant about their values... I find their extreme focus on some cause sort of superfluous, and at the worst a problem. I am mostly talking about those ESI-Fi people who are militant Vegans, and make videos saying "People who eat meat should be dead", or on the less extreme end "All people who eat meat are bad and should be disrespected".
Now, the Fi of people who have
Creative Fi is MUCH easier to deal with for me, on average.
I find their more flexible use of Fi much more sensible and appropriate. I can even find their Fi sort of admirable sometimes (up to a point – my opinion on that stuff is ever-changing; sometimes I find it admirable, other times I am neutral about it, at the worst I am annoyed by it – but that is rare). Usually ExFps also have Fi driven causes, but they are typically more "far-reaching", and more imbued with the awareness of the wishes and concerns of more/most people (Demonstrative Fe thing, maybe?). Their Fi is simply less "insular" and less strict, and I find that more appealing. Besides the fact that their Demonstrative Fe makes for much more pleasant social interactions. In contrast, Fe Ignoring in social group interactions can be a bit difficult to figure out or to "work with" for me. Are they actually enjoying themselves? And they seem to "cool down" the fun atmosphere at times, which I find stifling and unpleasant. Whereas Fe Demonstrative is both skilled at and more willing to influence the emotional atmosphere for the better, which I can admire.
For some reason, I have had some awkward clashes with
Fi seeking people regarding certain values, too.
It is less bad than with many Fi leads, but certainly worse than my interactions with Creative Fi people. In a way, they "expect" from others more strict Fi values. Or maybe it is really just the fact that Te leads are not really the best types for me in general. Difficult to explain. It is a bit of a mixed bag here. Oh, I should mention my take on their Fe Role. Tbh, I can find it a bit creepy with certain people, especially when it is a male LSE. I cannot exactly say why it seems creepy, but to me, their facial movements and Fe can seem sort of "forced" or "fake" to me, and that is creepy and makes me uncomfortable. It looks like as if they were wearing a mask and the facial features do not contort and convey emotions as they should. Without that creepiness factor (again, it doesn't come up with all Fe Role people... but with many), I can actually find their Fe Role okay. It is surely more fun than Fe Ignoring (but not as fun as Fe Demonstrative).
I cannot say much about the Fi of
Fi HA people. It can also be a mixed bag here. Either kind of okay or kind of meh. Can be a bit cute at most – when they seem ignorant of it or a bit helpless, but not when they have formed some oddly strict Fi views in a insufficient manner. Then I stay away and try to avoid the topic. Generally, not too much of a problem, though. I can find their Fe PoLR much more problematic and frustrating/unappealing in certain group situations – however, it can be vaguely humorous. When they "use" their Fe with a certain humorous (bordering on witty sarcasm) tone, it can be okay. But if it leads to the dissolution of the group, I am against it.
So, putting my Ti HA to use, here is my personal ranking:
1. Creative Fi
2. Fi HA
3. Fi Seeking
4. Fi Lead
Either way...
Many of my best friends, and many of my crushes have been Fi Ego.
Many of those friendships have ended because of some "Fi violation" – that is what happened with the ESI-Fi girls, while with the other Fi types our friendships just ended up fizzling out on their own. And those crushes typically never really lead to anywhere serious.
So, there you have it.
Fi can be the bane of my existence, but that hasn't stopped me from befriending Fi individuals or falling for them.