Originally Posted by
golden
I have found people of all quadras controlling. Here are some things that qualify as controlling for me:
* Denying me my point of view
* Telling me how I feel, assuming you can understand that
* Setting up situations that serve your needs and not mine
* Treating me like an object
* Gaslighting
* Discouraging me from having friends
* Leaving me to do all the grunt work
* Mansplaining or any kind of condescension
* Lying about me
* Lying to me (following a pattern of deceit)
* Trying to impose rigid gender roles on me
* Making unilateral decisions when my input should have been sought
* Using insulting language to talk about me, or directly insulting me
* Forcing me to have sex
* Threatening me
* Bullying me
* Harassing me
* Using me
* Nickel-and-diming me
* Underpaying me
Things like that. These things are actual controlling behaviors. Any type can do these things -- woot! Equal opportunity.
People from the Quadra called "Toxic Masculinity" have proven to demonstrate these behaviors. The four types found in this Quadra are called Psychopath, Narcissist, Abuser and CEO. A classic among these types is Enneagram 10 which describes the core fear of being castrated and called a woman, since being femininity is diminishing. Integration happens through soft and healing gay romance that will free all women and other men from this Quadra's misguided ways
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