Well you also have to consider possibilities that your dual aint your dual. Well he or she is by type but some say that you are ready for your dual at older ages. In your 50s maybe. Just putting that idea out there. At this phase in your life maybe a super-ego relation is where its at? Also just forgetting about Socionics entirely for the the time is not a bad idea. Eventually you will find use in those ideas from Socionics that actually apply to the world and the rest will slowly be removed from your mind.