I think ENTp's tend to get stuck on their original experiences. I think that there is some immaturity or insecurity or something which makes them generate these unrealistic ideals out of people. you have this picture of the perfect woman, the ideal woman, which only you can see and save. Perhaps its the challenge, the overcoming or conquering of the ideal, im not sure, but it always causes pain.Originally Posted by implied
I go for the pale, dark haired INTj girls. There are alot of them for some reason, so it seems. I am just drawn to it. But whenever I get in situations with them it always ends painfully, which is sad. I always think "if only it could have ended better... if only i had done something different"
But one criticism I always get is that I am trying to get pity from people. I never understand this because I feel genuinely justified in my words at the moment, or i think i am. I do though, I switch from an authoritative jerk to a pitiful lonely, and hopeless romantic. I never know whether I care, whether I can. I can't tell if I love someone or not. the only way I'm ever sure is if they give me that special attention I need, which is touch, kisses, and hugs and sweet-talk.
SO I guess ENTp's are really good nice warm people that like attention and also give attention. We can be mean though, and also pushy with what we want. This is where I'd say the role function would kick in. When I'm unsure how to make the first move I usually get very stern and might yell like "what is this?! we like one another, you said so, so why don't we just make out! NORMAL PEOPLE DO THAT!!!" and if I were attracted to normal girls then I could make out more, get that special attention I need... but since I'm so afraid of making the first move I choose the girls that are less likely to push for anything. Thinking this will guarantee success. nope, doesn't.
This guy you wrote about seems to have the right idea. I think I'll head down to the art department and find an artsy girl.