Quote Originally Posted by Eliza Thomason View Post
Yes, an important difference - well, fairly important. You typo'ed one of those, so if she is ESFj then she is your Conflictor, and ENFj means she is your Supervisor and both are a challenge for you. Well, you would be on more equal footing if she is ESFj... and I know two couples in that exact Conflictor relationship who have survived the long-haul, but its been tough going. It is a challenge, but my idea is that all relationships can work, with rock solid commitment and flexibility and not expecting the other person to take the place of God in your life. Also both of you being fairly sane helps.

One thing that helps is to be quite sure you are self-typed correctly. People come here with different degrees of sureness on that. I wonder how sure you are on your two types?

Maine coast sounds great!
Eliza: Yes, I'm an obvious NOOB to Socionics. I'm still living in the MBTI paradigm. Having done a bit of reading this morning, I'm pretty confident that I'm INTp/ILI and he (yes, we're a gay couple) is ESFj/ESE.

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