Have you actually had close interactions with ILIs? If not, that might explain why you still believe this.
I have an ILI sister-in-law of whom everyone denies my statement that she likes to be spanked. She herself would probably deny that too. Someday her SEE-prince will come and she will learn something totally unexpected about herself ;-)
Subjugation is at the core of ILI's Se-dual seeking function. An ILI who, in a close relationship, is not subject to subjugation, might actually provoke you to do so. It's the way ILIs feel they are cared about. Stratiyevskaya described this quite nicely:
http://www.the16types.info/vbulletin...Stratiyevskaya
Often when I run into an ILI I feel the angry inclination to beat the shit out of them. Which in fact means it is what they want, or else I wouldn't feel it.