Going back to about developing "Fi/Fe" skills,
I've tried that in the past, and it's probably my most frequent approach, but it doesn't work with new people who aren't going to open up, people I know well who I already know about their values, and groups of people where it's not normal or comfortable for people to open up about their values. So I think figuring out how to make conversation better would make life a lot easier in many cases. Do you think facial expression/vocal tone are the way to go about it? I know very little about those.
I think paying attention to facial expression/body language/vocal tone are what feeling/sensing types are good at, and for us it's swimming against the current. I haven't had any success with that, even after reading books like Joe Navarro's "What Every Body Is Saying". Maybe being better a conversationalist is our best bet. Perhaps the more talented LIIs could give us a hint?
Also,
Analysis is very near and dear to an LII's heart. A lot of the time I'm analysing things needlessly, but it's not to achieve anything so it's actually enjoyable. I guess that's
analysis.
I spend hours thinking about how to optimize every little action I take to the point where it just isn't worth it. I guess it's just OCD.
When I'm trying to make a decision about something, it's normally like an
ugh field, where I think very minimally about it, or I'll ask someone else for help, or I'll just make a decision and see how it goes if the outcome isn't too important/I can change. I guess that's
analysis.
Hey, that's a really cool wiki Making immediate decisions on less important problems is something I'm going to try. Thanks, I feel like I'm in therapy having the errors in my thinking patterns pointed out
I think, indicative of what we're working on, I do analyse too much when it comes to
analysis, and how to be better at connecting with people, becoming social, etc.
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I'm not sure, perhaps you could share advice re: what you're analysing?
I think a lot of this is made worse by anxiety issues, I'm going to try to fix that first and then come back to this for a more objective perspective.