Not only that but the guy sounds extremely controlling, selfish, emotionally and psychologically abusive. I can't see this person as an IEI for several other reasons but those things seem a bit over the top in this case. He does not seem to care at all for his wife and her feelings. Regardless their types I believe she is in a bad relationship the way AS describes it and it is not necessarily a conflictor relationship. The examples he gives illustrate something far more insidious going on.