another example... when i'm babysitting, i've had difficulty putting my foot down and disciplining kids. i get along better with older kids who can understand what they did wrong and are clever enough not to do it again, but younger children who pitch a fit are terrifying!
additionally, i tend to follow the path of least resistance in my relationships. if someone gives me bad advice, i'll say thank you, but i won't follow it. i don't see any good reason to spurn well-wishers, to paraphrase an article. while chatting with someone, i might disagree with what they're saying, though i won't speak up about it (
unless it's something i believe morally objectionable, then i feel it gives me "the right" to say something). if someone is making demands against me, i might acquiesce just so they'll shut up, but that doesn't mean i'll listen. typically either two examples will end with me cutting off the other person, a passive "leave me alone"...
-polr has also manifested for me as an aversion to open conflict. i cannot relax when i know someone is angry with me.
in contrast to the example i gave about restaurants earlier, my SLE father will flag down a waiter and speak his mind if he hates his food, which i find outrageous.
thank you. and no, i'm EII.