I don't get dual relationships (duality)

[Adam Strange]

As for the misguided attack on Adam - just because Adam may use his rationality in choosing a partner, it doesn't follow that he would not put effort into the relationship itself.

@Adam Strange I think you got Pragma love strong See here: http://wikisocion.net/en/index.php?t..._Forms_of_Love

Hi, @Myst.

I read all of the descriptions of love in your link, and I agree that I probably come closest to the Pragma form of love. Except you'd have to blend that in with Stupidia, which is the form of love that keeps you married when your SLI partner has left for greener pastures.

I was talking to my IEE bookkeeper today, and she is about 18 years into a marriage to an ILE and is counting the days until her separation and divorce, which will be when her youngest goes off to college. I asked her what happened, and she said that she married him because she expected that they would both grow up after they got married, bought a house, and had kids, but it turned out that only she grew up. He, on the other hand, wants a Mommy who will find his underpants for him and remind him when it's time to eat.
She said that the warning signs were there from the first. They threw a dinner party for some friends, and she first cleaned his messy apartment, bought the food, prepared the meal, served the meal, and then cleaned off the table and after the guests had gone, did the dishes. When she complained that she felt like he had done nothing and she was just serving him, he told her "I like to be served", at which point she blew up. She married him anyway, so, she says, she has only herself to blame.
She also told me that he forgets their kid's birthdays and is never there for holidays. She said that this used to really hurt her, but she now just gives him exactly what he gave her for her birthday. This year, she said, he got a text saying "Happy Birthday", because that's exactly what she got from him last year. But, she went on to say, she buys herself really nice presents.
She was also very interested in seeing how Match.com works, because she's planning ahead.

So, I guess, Pragma isn't just a Gamma thing.

*EDIT*
I should add that the IEE told me that the ILE has many, many admirable traits. She just feels that he needs someone to look after him and take care of him in order to bring them out and make him happy, and she just can't do that adequately.