BandD, your two posts above, describing ILE and ESI/SEI, are spot-on.

My LSI Ex-GF has a male ILE friend, and she liked his intelligence and listened to him while getting him to drive her places she wanted to go when I was either out of town or trying to break up with her (like an SEI), but she hated his views on women, which she thought were misogynistic but were him merely expecting an SEI infinitely indulgent helpmate/mother instead of a female Samurai warrior (like an ESI).