The best advice usually come from people who know me well (not necessarily my situations, but that helps of course) and people I'm drawn to and trust.
I'm not interested in "how to be nice" ideas, I need social etiquette assistance and help with expressing my intentions accurately through my actions. Regulating boundaries and distance in a more balanced manner is something I probably need to learn, too.
And yes, if I like and respect you, I will take your advice over some generalized ideas from arbitrary sources. Trust is an important factor.
You sound like a human being. Congrats.
And why is maliciousness associated or put together with combativeness? They don't have to go hand in hand. They are unrelated essentially.
I understand, I've been there myself. Just hold on and do your best.
I only shared what has worked for me. You're welcome.