The Star is almost (or completely is) of celebrity status. They, like the Natural, poses the powers of the uncanny -- specifically mixing reality and myth. The star is a dream come true. Physically present, but almost legendary and mythic in essence. They are almost too dream-like to picture in front of us. We imagine them too far out of our league, and that is what makes them so attractive.
They have a strong reputation as something surreal and superior to our understanding of day-to-day life. They attract us with their Hollywood-esque aura, but also with their down-to-earth ability to relate to us. They're up there with the stars, but close enough to come in contact with. Not too out of our reaches.
To most, having a crush on a star-like individual may seem natural and obvious. But digging deeper, we can attribute this attraction to our own seemingly-boring, too-natural, banal and too real of a life. Like all the other archetypal lovers, we're attracted to them because we lack what they have. And they have out-of-this-world type lives. Or at least portray it.
Think of any celebrity. Any performing musician. Any touring author. Any interviewed actor/actress. They have attention and adventure plastered all over their perceived schedules, and we want that. Especially in this Instagram / YouTube / Facebook / Netflix / Snapchat era of showing off. When we see their following on social media, we want a piece of that for ourselves, and that's what makes them so attractive to our plain lives.
Although the Star may have a clean and bright reputation, your dynamic with them will also include some overlooked setbacks. Like the Dandy, you may come to fight for attention. Like the Charismatic, you may come to exhaustion with their affection. Like the Coquette, you may feel frustrated with their independence. I can only imagine how frustrating an actual celebrity's family must get when they're bombarded with the paparazzi (though could also be invigorating from time to time).
We all have our crushes from the movies, but think deeply about what it must be like being their partner.
To tackle and grow maturely with a Star:
Come up with clear expectations for each other's needs for affection.
Understand that you both still have your own dedicated circle of friends/family and accept each other's growth with others.
Stay supportive of each other's goals and remember that no one can bring support in the same way that you do for them.
You have so much love to offer the world, do not stunt your talents.
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