One confusing thing about this conversation with you Subteigh is that I have already addressed this point, several times in fact. I don't know if you are ignoring what I say - maybe you just skim my words and go on developing your own thought, in which case, why am I writing here?
Or maybe you are so entrenched in this false understanding that you are blinded and cannot read, or even entertain an opposing view?
I don't know!
I have said it -
I do not know this punishing God that you speak of. Perhaps this is the basis of the anger I sense in you. Perhaps you are truly afraid of eternal damnation, and angry and rejecting of this God who would do that. But I have addressed that here - of hell not being a punishment. Maybe more like a natural consequence?
To recap again, God's laws are written in our hearts. Perhaps there are laws you do not want to keep, and you are angry at what you think is the outcome of that? The Christian religion, like most, does have behavior guidelines, and it teaches what is right and what is wrong to do.
For example, we are told we must forgive others, and that we will be forgiven as we forgive others. But suppose you are a person who does not want to forgive? Furthermore, we are told we must not judge others, and that we will be judged by the same measuring stick we judge others. These are harsh "punishments" - yet, just ones. Yes, these simple thoughts of ours - unforgiveness, judgmentalness - these things matter to God who sees our hearts. And we know it matters because its written on our hearts.
God tells us what our thoughts should be because it aims us in a direction.
This old quote, or some version of it, might have always been with us:
"Watch your thoughts for they become words,
watch your words for they become actions,
watch your actions, for they become habits,
watch your habits for they become your character,
watch your character for it becomes your destiny."
So one who makes up their mind when young that they will never forgive, or that they will judge others if they want to and no one can stop them - they are headed in a bad direction. Its one of the many directions God warns us not to go in, because He loves us, and things will get bad for us if we go there. One thing leads to another, like in that quote, and in the end one can die a person who refuses to forgive, for example, and HATES any such thing, and WANTS a destiny where they can be forever away from such goodness. And they see ALL in the Light of Truth when they die - in other words, its an INFORMED decision - and they STILL want "bad" and the only place for that is Hell so they want that.
That is the point I have already made in this conversation - more than once I believe, which you seem to keep missing - as if I never made that point. People CHOOSE Hell. Its a natural consequence. And they have a whole lifetime to get there. Is generally choosing bad until that's ALL they want. But yet they can ALWAYS repent, even at the last minute after a terrible life. God loves us all and wants us all in Heaven. But He also made us in His image - and that includes free will. We are not puppets. But "doing it my way" - choosing to do what we know God does not want us to do, just because we want what we want, now, is not wise. It can lead to more and more not wanting what God wants, and then to not wanting what is good, because it reminds us of God. Its not a good risk to make, to choose to go in a direction that is against good.
I don't know if I explained that well but that's basically how it is. Not how you are saying ('hell is the punishment of an angry god').
I also want to say that when we have trouble following God's laws He totally understands. We have to simply want to do things His way, then He helps us get there. Sometimes we have to simply desire to desire to do things His way. And He will give us that. I have prayed that prayer! I have said, "I do not want to forgive ____, but I desire to desire to forgive", and I ask God to give me that." And He does. And He is not impatient with me while I cannot. There is nothing He asks us to do that He will not help us do. He says, "My yoke is easy, and my burden is light". And how can that be, if a person whose child has been abused and murdered is called to forgive? That person will need great heaps of supernatural grace to do that, and if they desire it, God will give it to them. Or any other challenge one has in following God's laws - God gives us the measure of grace we need to do it. (Also he is patient and understanding when we are not there yet). And in these times, He is pouring out heaps and heaps of graces, because folks need a LOT.