Helpful responses. My thoughts have gone in the direction of tritype theory..I don’t know if anyone else likes it but figuring out my parent is 285 feels helpful to me. The descriptions for tritype are limited, but simple and quite positively framed so it helps me to see how I overreact sometimes with my mother..how I am sometimes missing her intentions. I guess this could be helpful in a sort of ‘let it pass’ way if she annoys me. Perhaps I need to take a bit more control too-seems like this tritype likes order? And I am her supervisor so maybe it makes sense. Maybe I can be a bit clearer in structuring the time I spend with each family member on my visit for example so she gets her proper ‘time’ to do all her talking haha