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What is beauty? What is love?Beauty is subjective and aesthetic. Love is a feeling. Affection, attachment, mutual understanding, etc.
What are your most important values?Loyalty and honesty
Do you have any sort of spiritual/religious beliefs, and why do you hold (or don't) those beliefs in the first place?I'm pretty skeptical and tend towards existentialism. I was raised in a a household that practiced a rather stupid, conservative religion so it's hard for me to take religion seriously, but my seeming inability to believe in anything I can't prove causes me anxiety.
Opinion on war and militaries? What is power to you?I think war should be a last resort and I'm glad to live in a country with an intimidating military even though I think too much money is spent on it. Not that I claim to know much about it. My family is not into the military. Not sure if it's because of selfishness or peaceful nature, probably both but mostly the former. Not that I'm better. I would never consider joining the military.
Power is fear and respect.
What have you had long conversations about? What are your interests? Why? Personality, drug testing, religion, politics, etc. Common sense stuff to me, though I usually avoid discussing the controversial stuff with people who strongly feel the opposite.
Interested in health/medicine as a conversation topic? Are you focused on your body? Definitely. I'm obsessed with diseases and physical abnormalities, etc. My body, yes. I'm pretty aware of minor weight loss/gain, abnormalities, knowing my exact height and measurements at all time as well as heart rate which I tend to monitor regularly...At a time I was somewhat compulsive about such things, particularly the weight (and measurements, body fat etc.) and heart rate. I tend to think there might be something wrong with me because I am very skinny and have rapid heart rate. Also I just find it interesting.
What do you think of daily chores? It's very hard for me to get started. I put off mundane activities for a long time, but once I get started it's nice to do something active and mindless so I can think clearly with no distractions.
Books or films you liked? Recently read/watched or otherwise. Examples welcome.Book: I dig Stephen King and John Grisham and other genre fiction like that. I love Harry Potter, Hunger Games and other YA stuff as I hope to be a YA author, so I consider it research. I also read a buttload of nonfiction.
Films, I like superhero movies and comedies, but no romance or overly stupid comedies. Drama is okay if it's not too trivial or TOO dramatic. No horror. I'm honestly not a huge movie fan in general though. I prefer television series. My favorite movie of all times is probably The Dark Knight.
What has made you cry? What has made you smile? Why? I cry maybe once a year IRL, usually over some argument that really wasn't that serious, but I feel the need to cry since I haven't done so in a year. I wait till I'm alone and then it is usually like a single tear lol. As a kid/young teenager I cried fairly often when I didn't get my way or during an argument with parents, but I suppose that's normal. However, I cry easily during books and movies, even if it is not a sad story. I cried during Wreck-it Ralph...aheh. I'm easily touched, but my life is pretty sweet and almost never cry about my own life. I also cry in funerals even if I barely knew the person who died, especially if it is someone close to a friend of mine.As for what makes me smile, lots of things. I'm a pretty happy person and I love a good laugh. It doesn't take much to make me laugh either. I like people, I like myself, I like a good comedy.
Where do you feel: at one with the environment/a sense of belonging? I get easily wrapped up in work social groups. I love having a job where I know everyone and I know the job and everyone is my friend for the most part, though maybe I have an enemy or two as well to complain about. That's when I feel like I belong.
What have people seen as your weaknesses? What do you dislike about yourself? I have been described as insensitive by most everyone I know. I argue a lot for fun, but sometimes get too intense and hurt peoples' feelings inadvertently. My girlfriend complains that I "see things in black and white" though I don't personally agree. I just refuse to accept feelings as facts, I think that's fair. When it comes to subjective issues I see things in shades of grey, but I see most things as black and white. Like the definitions of words. We recently got in an argument over whether the town we are living in would be considered rural. I scoffed and said of course not. The population density is high, there's no agricultural activities within the confines of the town, and we can walk anywhere we need to in twenty minutes or less. Eventually I managed to severely prove her wrong but she still claimed to be right because she didn't mean technically by definition we lived in a rural town, but it felt rural to her, so neither of us were wrong. :/ Yeah, okay.
Also, I am not the most responsible or tidy or conscientious person in the world. Or even the room if I were alone in a room with a dog or a child, though I improve on this with age.
What I dislike about myself: I find it hard to focus. I have a lot of interests and projects and I rarely finish anything I start. I also suck at math, directions, and spatial orientation in general, e.g. loading a dishwasher, playing tetris, packing bags, bagging groceries, finding my way without gps, long division, drawing, etc. And I find it hard to keep my mouth shut sometimes, though I am shy around strangers.
What have people seen as your strengths? What do you like about yourself? I'm loyal, generous, fun, easygoing, good conversation, open minded, don't take myself too seriously, creative, pretty undramatic, practical, etc.
In what areas of your life would you like help? I spend too much money (mostly on food and drink and books), probably drink too much, can't resist temptation, have little tact, am not great at dealing with peoples' feelings, am compulsive about many things, can't focus, you name it.
Ever feel stuck in a rut? If yes, describe the causes and your reaction to it. From an outsiders' perspective you could say I am always in a rut, but I don't mind. I tend to like security and routine and safety so I can enjoy my own interests and hobbies freely, mostly having to do with learning and reading and writing.
What qualities do you most like and dislike in other people? What types do you get along with? I really don't appreciate lying or fronting in any way. I like people who are loyal and interesting and intellectual and honest. I can't stand people with overly strong personalities. I like to dominate in a way. At the same time though, I can't stand people with bland personalities who agree with everything you say. Blech. I usually get along with introverts more, but then when they are ready to leave the party early or something, I am disappointed.
How do you feel about romance/sex? What qualities do you want in a partner? I am not the most romantic, at least not in a normal way. I am easily flustered by expressing feelings that I consider embarrassing (by making me vulnerable) or negative. I also find most romantic gestures cheesy. I am quite sexual however. In a partner I need someone to match wits with, reliable, domestic, nurturing, openminded, and ambitious.
If you were to raise a child, what would be your main concerns, what measures would you take, and why? Main concerns: I would probably be a bit overprotective physically. No dangerous sports, no walking alone, I meet your friends and dates, no swimming in rivers or jumping from trees into ponds, stuff like that. Wear helmets and seatbelts. Also, I'd be concerned with teaching them music and verbal (and reading) skills at an early age, as well as foreign language. I was taught to read (books and music) at a very early age and I am still ahead of the crowd because of that. I think it's important to teach that stuff early on before they pass the point of ideal brain development. Also, my mother was very protective of me, and I think she went overboard, but I'm glad about certain things. She was careful to make sure I was never molested or severely injured.
A friend makes a claim that clashes with your current beliefs. What is your inward and outward reaction?There will be a friendly debate, at least friendly on my part. Most beliefs however I am not that serious about and am willing to change my mind if you can make a good argument.
Describe your relationship to society. How do you see people as a whole? What do you consider a prevalent social problem? Name one. I have always been a bit rebellious. I don't care for rules in general. I like most people, but I really dislike some as well. I think most people are generally good, but they are looking out for themselves above all, not that I'm any better. A prevalent social problem to me would be...I don't know. Pay discrepancies in men and women?
How do you choose your friends and how do you behave around them? I am a bit irreverent. Anyone who is drawn to that rather than repelled by it is friend material. Around friends I am very outgoing and playful. I like to poke fun at everyone and really get to know them.
How do you behave around strangers? I am oddly shy around strangers, especially if I am alone. I hate approaching strangers. I hate to make mistakes or look stupid in public. If I'm with a group of friends I am very confident around, I gain social confidence around strangers as well.