Originally Posted by
consentingadult
Like I said, I couldn't care less about her weight. It's she who does, and it's not a goal in itself, it's an enabler for other goals.
The point here is not how I can prod her, but how to support her in a way that helps her achieve her goals. To give some more background. She'll be turning 50 this year. halfway last year, she, at her own request started a program at work, where she is professionally guided being helped with a weight loss program. This is not going as expected. The coaches make her do things that get her injured, they do not take into account the condition of her knees and other joints in the legs. I and her physiotherapist already suggested she should not do these exercises, but do exercises that help her burn fat and built muscles in a way that doesn't strain her joints, e.g. by going swimming. She agrees about that. But then she goes swimming twice a week in a leisurely way, so I tell her such an effort doesn't really produce sweat, let alone it burns fat. But she doesn't want to do that. When I suggest that she does something to eat less, she doesn't want to do that either.
As far as I'm concerned. that's all fine with me. I don't have to live the rest of my life with aching knees. Should I just tell her to shut up and stop whining?