I went through this thread and tried to take out things which you wrote which could suggest possible experiences. Not as good as getting actual descriptions, though.
Here's some information you provided, I'll do my best at interpreting this information…though I suppose that it would be rude and invasive to do so:
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OK, you've said that you are uncomfortable around people who tend to notice and interpret your external expressions. Who notice your tense body, balled up fists, protruding blood vessels and interpret that as you are angry at the moment. Who see you smile, laugh, body relaxed, and interpret that as you are relatively happy at the moment.
You find it rude that they are capable of picking up on the signals you either attempt to hide or don't realize you are sending out. (Honest question: Isn't trying to hide that information a form of manipulation?)
Based on the above responses, I'm left to assume that you find it rude that if someone notices you are upset then they drop the issue at hand or, heaven forbid, try to understand what's making you upset. This last is rude and
That you find it rude and invasive when you come home from work and your mate notices you're stressed, asks how your day was (how dare he try to know/understand what you've gone through that day) and offers a back massage to help put you in a more relaxing mood. What a manipulative prick, eh.
That you find it rude that your family notices signs that you might be completely exhausted or sick, and insist on taking care of you, cleaning the house, cooking meals for you, holding back your hair while you vomit, and then cleaning it up afterwards. Families can be so insensitive sometimes. After all, you didn't them to do these things for you.
And at work? A boss who notices you're sick and sends you home to recuperate is deemed rude and manipulative.
As for others requesting signals from you, I can see how it could be considered rude for your mate to ask for some kind of signal from you that you're enjoying or not enjoying some sexual technique he's using on you. Heaven forbid he get off on your moans and screams. And surely, you don’t pay attention to that kind of information. After, all, it'd be rude and invasive to know that he is enjoying something you are doing to him. Much better to ignore those signals and let him tell you in words alone (even if he can't speak at the moment *wicked grin*
And I can see how it could be considered rude that a boss could ask an employee to be a little more patient and understanding with clients/customers. After all, clients/customers shouldn't be reacting to an employees mood signals.
Is this the kind of rude, invasive, manipulating Fe to which you keep referring to? Or did you have something more specific in mind.?. *innocent smile*