Socionics-aside...

Your father sounds like a nice suburban middle class man that has allowed himself to get intimidated by a more outgoing female. This is very common. The dad is a silent distant lazy basketcase and the mom is a pushy go-getter. They balance each other where the mom gets to be as pushy as possible and the dad as victimy as possible without both working on their issues. Since heterosexual people are often attracted to differences, being HETERO - they find this complementary but in the greater scheme of things it does seem to be headache-inducing.

You're just pissed at them and it's very humane to be mad at your parents. However you will not build good relationships being flippant and abrasive, especially with your dad. You only get along with people by being empathetic to their point of view. It reminds me of that cliched Charmed episode: Your dad doesn't need to be told he's "easily intimidated" , he needs to be encouraged TO get over the victimyness. Your mom doesn't need to be told to stop being a busybody she needs productive outlets to explore her own introverted gifts. (and other people will start respecting her more as she's leaving them more alone)

The key is to uplift and encourage other people (No matter what they do) - not criticize or demean.