Probably you're mixing FeSi's up with SeFi's
That could be.

Wrong. Just simply wrong. INTj's are horrible at picking any social rule that I know of. Their just oblivious to other people's notions until afterwards.
Generally that is how I am, unless it is a situation that I've got lots of experience. But most of the time I am at a loss --- so that has to do with some of my defensiveness and distance I believe, because I know that is a vulnerable area. Or at least that is what I aim for at times.

When I posted about the psychological distance of formality, it had to do with that also -- because it is a somewhat standardized method of interaction.


ah, I've got to go. More later.