Yeah, cool. Thank you everyone for the answers. (And wow, @
squark. What a story)
I'm not sold on Duality as Bliss things I've read around here. I think the character and health (emotional, psychological, sometimes physical) health of the two people is most important, plus mutual respect + attraction of course, and then if they're duals that would surely be delicious icing.*
It's unclear to me whether being duals even implies higher likelihood of mutual respect + attraction, which is kind of a bummer.
I know a dual of mine who I'm pretty sure has BPD, and he made my life absolute misery for a while. Still does when I think too much about that whole mess, heh. Actually I wonder if it was worse because we're duals, so he knew just where to poke and so did I.
Anyway..........
* It's unclear to me whether being duals even implies higher likelihood of mutual respect + attraction, which is kind of a bummer. le sigh