lol im the same i can be thought as not holding grudges but the reality is that if someone i trust does something i dont like... theyre banned kind of forever, its not like i dont hold a grudge it's just that the one im holding it for will never see me holding it for him/her. in time the feeling will heal but i rarely get back to normality with them, aka avoidance= INFJ trait

+ complaining forever with people close to me, check