trauma dump time, whenever id fight my sister and bring her to crying (usually after her pushign me to the edge after persisntetly harassing me and theres other factors, i dont feel good about it or justified either way, at the time i didnt see a way out) id try to calm her down which i felt unequipped to do, and it was somewhat rushed bc i was afraid my parents would hear her and punish me, my take is this taught her when shes vulnerable to handle her emotions in a fake way, and to solve her problems in a fake way. self deception, and also to get shallow validation and distractions instead of real understanding
shes borderline and im not or at least wasnt until i started mirorring borderlines and narcs bc that was what i was surrounded by
now idk if some doc didnt do smth to her as a baby and thst why she was misbehaving and then it turned to that and we dont know how to solve someone's problem like that bc they are hurt and angry aobut smth they may not even remember.