I disagree, I think looking at quadra values is a good way to start assessing one's type.
I think what you described here (the two phrases taken together) is definitely consistent with an Fe-ego:
It isn't that Fi types arent' decent at this too, it's just that Fi types dont think of it this way. Instead of caring about rubbing anyone the wrong way, an Fi type might care more about being thought of as a kind, good person and to be thought of as a good friend. At least, per my understanding.More than anything else, I am very sensitive to being criticized or rejected by others. So I try to generally be the friendly, nice guy (in a positive sense) so that I am not generally rubbing anyone the wrong way.
So I agree, SEI seems to fit you pretty well!