Hey starfall. Ya! Totally agree! I am somewhere in the middle too between those descriptions. Glad I am not nuts! haha. Ya see that bothers me, what you said about your bf and his response to that suicide note. Maybe this is when the IEI seems nice and sweet. The times when my SLEs have reacted that way, I have given them a dress down! I think that's the right term? haha. And if they act too smart I just go and help the stranger anyway. If they can do what they want to do instinctually, so can I ! I just want to hit them on the head sometimes about these things... and I do! The fights are very enjoyable I have to say. Do you relate to the whole play fighting thing? Do you like getting wild and aggressive with your SLE? I love it! I experience a lot of play fighting. Were I can scream at em, hit them, slap them... and they think it's foreplay!
But that's my point! How does the SLE simply swoon over IEI ideals and niceties but have a problem with other people's weaknesses?