Originally Posted by
Clumsy
Hmmm... I guess I just want to know what it's like to interpret/respond to something in the world like an Fi valuer does?
My interpretation of Fe is that it is a constant experience (and impressions being made on the Fe valuer and those that are given the Fe) through feelings. Everything evokes some kind of emotional reaction, even if it's not outwardly displayed. It's not really an objective like or dislike, so much as it is pure joy or enthusiasm or passion or whatever you end up feeling. Then, that Fe valuer's emotional responses become how the Fe valuer measures if they like or dislike (which I guess is more like Fi) something.
If they feel bored or emotionally numb for example when they listen to a song, they might think to themselves, "I don't like this", based off of that lack of feeling they get when they hear it (but maybe this is just how it is for everyone?). They cannot feel something emotionally from the music in some way, so they do not like it. Regardless of the style of the song, the first thing that Fe valuer would most likely notice is how the music makes them feel, the experience of that music. In this way I think they can sometimes appear fickle because their emotions may change towards something given time (either because they themselves for some reason feel differently towards it, or others around them have changed their mind in some way, thus causing them to feel differently). Is this how Fi also would interpret something like music?
If someone around the Fe valuer does not like something, such as a song that the Fe valuer enjoys, that Fe valuer may feel guilty or upset for having a desire to listen to that song. This is especially true if that person is close to the Fe valuer (that person's opinion is highly valued). Thus the Fe valuer may grow to actually feel less pleasure or joy or whatever they originally felt when listening to a song that they previously enjoyed, simply because of that other person's opinion. This has been my experience anyways. How would an Fi valuer react to the same situation?
When you listen to a song, what are the first things you notice about that song? What goes through your mind? How do you know whether or not you like it?