How do you know you're in a dual relationship?

[Birdie]

Proceed to conject please.

[Mediator Kam]

When you fall in love with someone, they become your dual. Ask Joy. She can confirm this for us.

I love you Joy, don't kill me.

[FoxOnStilts]

Well, you have your personality type, right? Generally, you're seeking two functions that pair with your leading and creative functions. For instance, I am Ne/Ti, so I would be "seeking" someone with Si/Fe. When you're in a relationship and your partner has the two functions that you're seeking in the right order, you're in a dual relationship. That is how you know.

[Mediator Kam]

Well, you have your personality type, right? Generally, you're seeking two functions that pair with your leading and creative functions. For instance, I am Ne/Ti, so I would be "seeking" someone with Si/Fe. When you're in a relationship and your partner has the two functions that you're seeking in the right order, you're in a dual relationship. That is how you know.

Fox: Hey there, you come here often?
Kam: I think tonight will be the first time.

Later that night:

^Example of dual interaction

[FoxOnStilts]

Fox: Hey there, you come here often?
Kam: I think tonight will be the first time.

Later that night:

^Example of dual interaction

[Ave]

Well, you have your personality type, right? Generally, you're seeking two functions that pair with your leading and creative functions. For instance, I am Ne/Ti, so I would be "seeking" someone with Si/Fe. When you're in a relationship and your partner has the two functions that you're seeking in the right order, you're in a dual relationship. That is how you know.

lol. How do you know the functions are in the right order, and that you're experiencing them?

[Ave]

I dont think it possible to really "know" such a thing, except by correctly identifying your type and theirs.

[FoxOnStilts]

lol. How do you know the functions are in the right order, and that you're experiencing them?

I didn't say anything about identifying said functions, just said that if that's where the functions are, then it's a dual relationship.

[Ave]

I didn't say anything about identifying said functions, just said that if that's where the functions are, then it's a dual relationship.

Ok but the OP was wondering how you know you're in a dual rels.

But Im not in the mood for serious discussion anyways .

[Nowisthetime]

When you fall in love with someone, they become your dual.

This is wrong, I just have to point it out. You were probably joking, but still.

[1981slater]

With a dual, you can be yourself. And you think your duals are "good people".

[Slacker]

With my husband, I felt very comfortable with him, like I could just be totally myself and say anything I thought, and a sense of trust, like he wouldn't blab everything I told him to anyone. I felt that after barely knowing him at all. I don't know if that was duality or something else.

[Lotus]

With my husband, I felt very comfortable with him, like I could just be totally myself and say anything I thought, and a sense of trust, like he wouldn't blab everything I told him to anyone. I felt that after barely knowing him at all. I don't know if that was duality or something else.

i feel like that with many people of different tYpes. but maYBe its drugs

[Beautiful sky]

With my husband, I felt very comfortable with him, like I could just be totally myself and say anything I thought, and a sense of trust, like he wouldn't blab everything I told him to anyone. I felt that after barely knowing him at all. I don't know if that was duality or something else.

That doesn't have to do with duality; it's something else, like having a mature person in your life, something else.

Duality, duality. I provide emotional support to a man who is so pessimistic and gets down on himself easily by reassuring that whatever he's frantic or neurotic about is going to be ok, this calms him down and establishes sense of acceptance of him. He helps me by organizing things and by confining the observable things in life to concepts and logic; he'll tell me why something is that way, etc. This helps me understand things that lurk in my subconscious and those things I have a hard time bringing out from under my thoughts. He gets me to stop thinking about those thoughts that trouble me and cause emotional feelings and obsessions and in that regard he calms my internal emotions; we become a lot alike one another in that I start saying and doing what he would normally say or do and he starts being like me too; one example is that he said to me that he's a lot nicer to people and a lot more likely to see it from their perspective now that he's had me give him other perspectives to look at rather than just jumping to judge people and hold them up to his perfect standards.

How can you tell if it's duality?

If what you say is perfectly understood by the other person and what they say is understood by you.
If what you do is the right thing that needed to be done in that situation.
If conflicts are easily subdued and disappear over time as you become in sink and you guys just know what the other will do and say at particular times; kinda like telepathy with each other.

[717495]

Duality isn't really being in love and having all this supposed flow and connection.

It's more like this person is a good partner/teammate for you in the long run and actually very similar thought process to you with an opposite objective that takes adjusting to. But you need to savor all the years to explore this relationship to it's full potential and realize that something like marriage consists of a variety of objectives in which you need the right balance, like two backs leaning against one another or someone to pull the other from the mud, because it's like real life that takes time like pines in the forest, or growing a city or business, not a story book fantasy where you fall in love within the instant week and have this deep ongoing chemistry.

[Absurd]

It's more like this person is a good partner/teammate for you in the long run and actually very similar thought process to you with an opposite objective that takes adjusting to.

That's what I said in one of my threads, but no, no one listens to poor old Absurd.

Sniff, snuff.

I'm sulking.

[marooned]

when you look back 10 years later and realize it was like a dream?

[Birdie]

Well I can't type myself and none of you are
willing/accurate.

[Absurd]

If thats the case, I have many types as my dual.

I'm quite the opposite.

Well I can't type myself and none of you are willing/accurate.

I'm sharpening my teeth already.

[Lobo]

It feels comfortable and I end up talking about stuff that I enjoy/don't mind talking about. It tends to be kinda boring though for the most part, in terms of new things being brought in.

[Birdie]

I want to cook dinner for him all the time.

[Lobo]

It feels comfortable and I end up talking about stuff that I enjoy/don't mind talking about. It tends to be kinda boring though for the most part, in terms of new things being brought in.

Btw, this happens with most LSEs, but not all.

[Creepy-bg]

How do you know you're in a dual relationship?

I know because Maritsa confirms it.

[Beautiful sky]

Let's say if I should die and my bf had to be in a new relationship, he would know he's in a dual relationship by...

"She would look like someone who thinks about people the way you [Maritsa] do, is altruistic, caring like you [Maritsa] are who meets his work needs (gives him plenty of space and at the same time cares for him by scheduling action and making sure he gets rest and food) and who's needs I can meet. Support her in her work, pragmatic day to day issues that fluster her, shore her up when she gets frustrated. "

I am very sensitive; I want to try to help solve some world problems and when I can't I get down on myself, I feel powerless, helpless, and often voice my sadness and my frustration; my boyfriend helps me with laughter, lightening things up, taking the serious mood off the edge with sarcasm and humor.

[lemontrees]

Proceed to conject please.

When you babble nonsensically at the other person, they somehow know what you're talking about.

[Beautiful sky]

Every dual relationship has slightly different emotional dynamics, so you may want to read up about your dual pair and how duals in that pair "behave" as a general rule.