What redbaron says is correct, socionics basically predicts this, some relationships, including relationships like activity and mirror requires a certain amount of distance, otherwise there will be conflict.
What redbaron says is correct, socionics basically predicts this, some relationships, including relationships like activity and mirror requires a certain amount of distance, otherwise there will be conflict.
I just don't see the "magic" of duality in real life for me. I'm definitely attracted to LSEs, but meh, haven't found that many who aren't tools or who I can actually trust. I like what Slacker said about just having fun and going out with people regardless of their type.
I can't say that I disagree with you as I've had a similar experience with my duals. The magic really only comes into play once you're close enough, and that happened for me with just one dual, with whom i was forced to work with for long long shifts of really hard work. With the other dual i now know, it's been hard to GET close enough in the first place. I think that really is the big catch with duality.
Enneagram: 9w1 6w5 2w3 so/sx
I hear u, I hear u... the same thing has been happening for me with my duals. And well maybe part of the magic of duality is that i actually WILL feel comfortable enough to call them out on it. And when I do, nothing catastrophic happens. Maybe they're even influenced by that. But yes I hear u, I feel absolutely horrible about what i told them, before I find out that they've actually grown from what i said.
Enneagram: 9w1 6w5 2w3 so/sx
I hear you. I have had a relationship with a dual before and I find it very hard to trust them, ESPECIALLY when they are left to their own devices for a period of time. It's hard to trust that they won't stuff up .... I mean it seems like they are oblivious to things that are obvious and important to me. I didn't like having to expel of this Ti on him, I didn't like becoming even more myself.
My ex dual makes attempts to indirectly get into contact with me and maybe I'm misreading his intentions but he is engaged (after only 6mnths with someone), why open that can of worms again for whatever reason he has. It's that kind of thing which made me realise we are so different. Dare I say I find it's easier to love identicals and I'm yet to find that same physical attraction to my identicals with my duals. Life is much more fun with activity partners over other relations. Living together could be a different story though!
duality is an idealization. Duals will end up running from eachothers problems, & thus running from eachother. Self actualization is necessary to achieve duality. If you are self actualized and you experience duality, it feels the same as the other relationships. You don't become self actualized through love, that's dependency issues and why you're so reliant on your mother and father, on daddy government and why you wear bear costumes and so fourth. So this is a bad question and it should be ignored.
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Dual type (as per tcaudilllg)
Enneagram 5 (wings either 4 or 6)?
I'm constantly looking to align the real with the ideal.I've been more oriented toward being overly idealistic by expecting the real to match the ideal. My thinking side is dominent. The result is that sometimes I can be overly impersonal or self-centered in my approach, not being understanding of others in the process and simply thinking "you should do this" or "everyone should follor this rule"..."regardless of how they feel or where they're coming from"which just isn't a good attitude to have. It is a way, though, to give oneself an artificial sense of self-justification. LSE
Best description of functions:
http://socionicsstudy.blogspot.com/2...functions.html
Differentiation and specialization is about focusing on abilities into a narrow area, humans vs other animals are highly specialized and have highly specialized information processing. In the course of differentiation some traits can be sacrificed in order to more adequately focus on other traits.
Duality is not about making people whole, even with a dual we are still not whole, which is why people engage society even after meeting a dual, marrying them and what not. That's why there is a socion, but even that is not whole. People group together and organize themselves not only to feel whole(althrough this is a feeling that could be desirable), but also to engage in cooperative activity and towards tangible goals and rewards.
Duality may be more about finding the best possible person to reproduce with, and achieving a feeling of satisfaction and contentment, however it doesn't make you whole, it does however make you psychologically supported.
People may describe this desire in mystical and spiritual terms, like a emptiness inside, a void in one's heart, but it is very simple, it is a basic desire to have support in our weak areas and that's all it is. However, if it feels to magical to the individuals, by all means indulge in that feeling.
1. This happens all the time. No problem, non issue.
2. The only reason that matters
3. Marriage counseling is for people who aren't compatible.
4. That depends on who you ask/there is no "end all be all" for anything ever anywhere
5. sounds like an extreme waste of time/completely uninteresting/not my idea of fun
6. I see no problem here. freindships/relationships, its all the same. those who have this problem may not limit themselves. just because you love/like someone doesn't mean you are compatible and should date. nor does it mean you should not date them.
7. the views become more similar in mature people. those views shouldn't matter.
8. Common effect of being an idiot
“Life shrinks or expands in proportion to one's courage.”
― Anais Nin
Lol.
IEE Ne Creative Type
Some and role lovin too. () I too...
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