I find NTs much more controlling than SFs. They're more likely to try and force people to do things their way, believing that they know what's best for everyone else. I see these contrasts between my ESFJ sister and INTP Dad. My Dad just "knows" what everyone else should do, what everyone else should eat, how we should eat it, what's healthy for us, what we should be doing, how we should be doing it... (you get the idea). Of course this could possibally be more
than NT in perticular (I think so). My ESFJ sister is MUCH more forgiving, thought of as less stubborn, and not stuck in her ways (my Dad has been wearing the same shoes, pants, and shirts since the 70's).
BTW, my Dad also teaches, and in the grading sense he may be too
forgiving (quite the opposite with others than he is with his family), giving everyone A's. He can be seen as somewhat of a push-over in regard to social interactions, actually (his mother used to tell him that he's lucky he wasn't born a girl
What ESFJ and INTP have in common is that they are both Dynamic types.