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    Both are awesome and relevant in the right context.

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    “Whether we fall by ambition, blood, or lust, like diamonds we are cut with our own dust.”

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    Quote Originally Posted by MisterNi View Post
    Both are awesome and relevant in the right context.

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    Wouldn't it be actually best to have an almost "secret" relationship? To a person you can really trust, I mean. You don't need anyone to validate a relationship, nor is it anyones business who you like and why. This way, nobody would be interfering, it would be just you and the other person. Everything that matters, actually.
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    Quote Originally Posted by MegaDoomer View Post
    Wouldn't it be actually best to have an almost "secret" relationship? To a person you can really trust, I mean. You don't need anyone to validate a relationship, nor is it anyones business who you like and why. This way, nobody would be interfering, it would be just you and the other person. Everything that matters, actually.
    Wouldn't it depend on if you were deliberately keeping it secret? If you're purposefully keeping it hidden from others...then those others are already interfering, even if that interference is merely by letting your thoughts of them influence your actions in this relationship.
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    Quote Originally Posted by MegaDoomer View Post
    Wouldn't it be actually best to have an almost "secret" relationship? To a person you can really trust, I mean. You don't need anyone to validate a relationship, nor is it anyones business who you like and why. This way, nobody would be interfering, it would be just you and the other person. Everything that matters, actually.
    Ah, idk, I don't even think about loud love as something having to do with boasting with other people about your relationship. More like you know...loud stuff. Idk, like having sex outdoors, lol.
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    I like having sex outdoors, without people watching.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Reuben View Post
    I like having sex outdoors, without people watching.
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    That doesn't stop me from liking it.
    She is wise
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    love
    dreams larger
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    Quote Originally Posted by anndelise View Post
    Wouldn't it depend on if you were deliberately keeping it secret?
    Yes of course, that's why I put the "secret" in quotation marks. It wouldn't be very good for your relationship if nobody is allowed to know about it.

    Quote Originally Posted by FDG View Post
    Ah, idk, I don't even think about loud love as something having to do with boasting with other people about your relationship.
    It's a matter of taste, I didn't want to say that "loud" expressions of love are necessarily attention-seeking. There are certainly a many people who would feel constrained if they weren't allowed to show their love openly. But I handle most personal things very secretive, anyway.
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    Mostly quiet. Though I am not opposed to public hand-holding, snuggling, and kissing (within limits), and telling people I love them-- whether in public or in private. I'm not going to paint it on a billboard, though. My husband and I both say "I love you" to each other often, and also to our kids. I'll yell it across a parking lot if I really feel the urge, though my husband prefers the quiet "I love you" hand signal that he picked up from his parents and taught to me (holding out thumb, index finger, and pinky, to make the letters "I L U").

    Verbal affirmation is very important, though it should always be backed up with loving actions.
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    Quote Originally Posted by pianosinger View Post
    the quiet "I love you" hand signal that he picked up from his parents and taught to me (holding out thumb, index finger, and pinky, to make the letters "I L U"). .
    Omg this kind of stuff would creep me out. Like I would feel the need to shout it as loud as I can to contrast the strong dampening and stifling of emotions this kind of stuff implies.
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    As far as emotions go, I prefer implicitness.

    Quote Originally Posted by pianosinger View Post
    Verbal affirmation is very important
    Why? I shouldn't have to tell someone how I feel about them, especially not people I love.
    “Whether we fall by ambition, blood, or lust, like diamonds we are cut with our own dust.”

    Quote Originally Posted by Gilly
    You've done yourself a huge favor developmentally by mustering the balls to do something really fucking scary... in about the most vulnerable situation possible.

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    Quote Originally Posted by MegaDoomer View Post
    Wouldn't it be actually best to have an almost "secret" relationship?
    For me? Yes, absolutely. For most people I know, not really. Or perhaps I'm wrong.
    “Whether we fall by ambition, blood, or lust, like diamonds we are cut with our own dust.”

    Quote Originally Posted by Gilly
    You've done yourself a huge favor developmentally by mustering the balls to do something really fucking scary... in about the most vulnerable situation possible.

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