What do you think is the fifth best relationship type?

[Beautiful sky]

Conflictors are people, they are not enemies.

But they're not good for spending the rest of your life with either.

No, but Illusionary relations are far worse than Conflictory relations by the way that conflicts arise and by how superficial Illusionary relations are. Imagine, with conflict relations there is always a topic that can never be resolved but in Illusionary relations you don't want to and almost can't stand to hear what the other person wants to say because their IM is your ignoring function; you, in essence, ignore them. Cold distance develops between Illusionary relations and eventually you find it very very hard to exchange any meaningful conversations with them. With conflict relations, you have a lot in common, a lot of activities and interests, just that you can't get the other person to do more of their demonstrative function, which comes out in spurs. True that conflicts don't get resolved in conflicting relations, but at least you do things together; an introvert needs to do things. Illusionary relations are so far deactivating that you just waste time doing nothing.

[DirectorAbbie]

No, but Illusionary relations are far worse than Conflictory relations by the way that conflicts arise and by how superficial Illusionary relations are. Imagine, with conflict relations there is always a topic that can never be resolved but in Illusionary relations you don't want to and almost can't stand to hear what the other person wants to say because their IM is your ignoring function; you, in essence, ignore them. Cold distance develops between Illusionary relations and eventually you find it very very hard to exchange any meaningful conversations with them. With conflict relations, you have a lot in common, a lot of activities and interests, just that you can't get the other person to do more of their demonstrative function, which comes out in spurs. True that conflicts don't get resolved in conflicting relations, but at least you do things together; an introvert needs to do things. Illusionary relations are so far deactivating that you just waste time doing nothing.

The bold are lies. Don't type second person to me.

[Beautiful sky]

No, but Illusionary relations are far worse than Conflictory relations by the way that conflicts arise and by how superficial Illusionary relations are. Imagine, with conflict relations there is always a topic that can never be resolved but in Illusionary relations you don't want to and almost can't stand to hear what the other person wants to say because their IM is your ignoring function; you, in essence, ignore them. Cold distance develops between Illusionary relations and eventually you find it very very hard to exchange any meaningful conversations with them. With conflict relations, you have a lot in common, a lot of activities and interests, just that you can't get the other person to do more of their demonstrative function, which comes out in spurs. True that conflicts don't get resolved in conflicting relations, but at least you do things together; an introvert needs to do things. Illusionary relations are so far deactivating that you just waste time doing nothing.

The bold are lies. Don't type second person to me.

Huh?

[DirectorAbbie]

The bold are lies. Don't type second person to me.

Huh?

You tried to tell me a bunch of things about how I interact with IEIs and LIIs, and it's not true. I work well with my LII brother and I have very little in common with IEIs. My conversations with my LII brother are informative, and my conversations with my IEI coworker irritated her.

[Beautiful sky]

Huh?

You tried to tell me a bunch of things about how I interact with IEIs and LIIs, and it's not true. I work well with my LII brother and I have very little in common with IEIs. My conversations with my LII brother are informative, and my conversations with my IEI coworker irritated her.

Oh, the "you" wasn't referring to you directly; it was kind of a generalized "you"

My ESE cousin irritates me more than my SLE friend.

[DirectorAbbie]

Oh, the "you" wasn't referring to you directly; it was kind of a generalized "you"

So now you're generalizing me? Please define "you" for future reference regarding your posts.

[Beautiful sky]

Oh, the "you" wasn't referring to you directly; it was kind of a generalized "you"

So now you're generalizing me? Please define "you" for future reference regarding your posts.

No. There's a misunderstanding here. Let's change "you" to "one person"

[Marietta]

Oh, the "you" wasn't referring to you directly; it was kind of a generalized "you"

So now you're generalizing me? Please define "you" for future reference regarding your posts.

lol

[redbaron]

Oh, the "you" wasn't referring to you directly; it was kind of a generalized "you"

DA, do you seriously not understand her use of the word "you" or are you just being difficult for fun?

and Maritsa, although I do think illusionary has problems, I can't see how it would be worse than conflictor. I love my illusionaries -- I have a couple close friends who are ILE. I have zero close friends who are LSE. I think they avoid me.

[Blaze]

Oh, the "you" wasn't referring to you directly; it was kind of a generalized "you"

DA, do you seriously not understand her use of the word "you" or are you just being difficult for fun?

and Maritsa, although I do think illusionary has problems, I can't see how it would be worse than conflictor. I love my illusionaries -- I have a couple close friends who are ILE. I have zero close friends who are LSE. I think they avoid me.

agree with this. actually the model A explains illusionary quite well. you connect really well on half the levels and disconnect on the other half. so if you decide to pay attention to the connecting half, the relationship is a good one!

[DirectorAbbie]

Oh, the "you" wasn't referring to you directly; it was kind of a generalized "you"

DA, do you seriously not understand her use of the word "you" or are you just being difficult for fun?

Neither and/or both.

I take things as they are said, not as they are meant, and it's pretty offensive for someone to tell you what your relationships are like when they don't know you and are wrong.