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Friends aren't that much responsibility though. Friends aren't like taking care of an infant. There were times in my close friend's life though where we both were probably coddling each other or something and it wasn't healthy but the great thing about a friend is it's like in the middle of a helpless baby and an independent adult that doesn't need anybody but themselves. It's a good balance. And over time you find out which tears to run to the rescue and which to let them figure out on their own.
If you are having to take care of somebody too much when they can take care of things themselves... that's bad and isn't what friendship is to me.
I think of it as-- being liked is fairly easy, you could easily just say what someone wanted to hear to be liked by them. Being admired usually requires (by my definition towards those I admire) that act of doing something worth recognizing; usually for themselves and generally not for the sole purpose of being liked.
**edit:
I voted to be admired.
Last edited by blackburry; 12-06-2013 at 08:49 PM.
Feel like they go hand in hand for me most of the time. And if someone admired me but didn't like me, how the fuxk would I know? It wouldn't matter.
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I don't remember how I've answered this in the past, but as of now, I'd say definitely admired. It's longer lasting and harder to achieve, thus more worthy in the long run. And while you don't have to admire those you like, you most often like those that you admire.
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Originally Posted by Gilly
I'd enjoy being both liked and admired for my character (i dont care so much about admiration for my accomplishments). I'd rather be liked than not liked while being admired, but even though i based my vote on that thought, if it came down to compromising my ethics/moral for the sake of being liked, i would prefer being not liked and admired instead, so i guess it really depends on the situation.
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