Would you rather be liked or admired?

[ashlesha]

weird

[Hot Scalding Gayser]

Friends aren't that much responsibility though. Friends aren't like taking care of an infant. There were times in my close friend's life though where we both were probably coddling each other or something and it wasn't healthy but the great thing about a friend is it's like in the middle of a helpless baby and an independent adult that doesn't need anybody but themselves. It's a good balance. And over time you find out which tears to run to the rescue and which to let them figure out on their own.

If you are having to take care of somebody too much when they can take care of things themselves... that's bad and isn't what friendship is to me.

[blackburry]

I think of it as-- being liked is fairly easy, you could easily just say what someone wanted to hear to be liked by them. Being admired usually requires (by my definition towards those I admire) that act of doing something worth recognizing; usually for themselves and generally not for the sole purpose of being liked.




**edit:

I voted to be admired.

[Joy]

i'm still bothered that people would answer "admired" to this question, lol. like you'd rather be above others than have the ability to actually be known by and connect with them. gross.

I think redbaron was talking about random acquaintances and strangers, not friends or family. Real connections are important to her, too.

[ashlesha]

the question was really simple.

liked. or admired.

either/or. no qualifications.

if you have to make excuses or change the question to suit the way you answered, you're doing it wrong.

[ashlesha]

(and i'm sure real connections are important to pretty much everyone, whether they acknowledge it or not)

[Lotus]

Feel like they go hand in hand for me most of the time. And if someone admired me but didn't like me, how the fuxk would I know? It wouldn't matter.

[Park]

I don't remember how I've answered this in the past, but as of now, I'd say definitely admired. It's longer lasting and harder to achieve, thus more worthy in the long run. And while you don't have to admire those you like, you most often like those that you admire.

[Suz]

I'd enjoy being both liked and admired for my character (i dont care so much about admiration for my accomplishments). I'd rather be liked than not liked while being admired, but even though i based my vote on that thought, if it came down to compromising my ethics/moral for the sake of being liked, i would prefer being not liked and admired instead, so i guess it really depends on the situation.

[Suz]

admired is impersonal

it's as if you're ok with people being your spectators and not your friends.

This was sort of my first thought in choosing my response.

[Kim]

And while you don't have to admire those you like, you most often like those that you admire.

I admire quite a few total jerks with brilliant work and I don't like them one bit.

[chriscorey]

I couldn't choose an answer, but this should suffice. I might be doing it wrong.