Oh my god

[jessica129]

I was being serious

[thePirate]

I know hahaha

[jessica129]

Damnit. Screw socionics. I try to stop thinking about it but i can't. I CANT.

[Slacker]

ok well give us some info. What prompted this? What about ESI feels right?

[jessica129]

I'm entirely too emotional for SLI. i'll get into specifics when i dont have a bad connection

[woofwoofl]

Welcome aboard as my new Mirror!

[blackburry]

dude. u and i do have alot in common. idk that could be the E6 similiarity. could still buy SLI for you tho. curious to see what others have to say.

[jessica129]

dude. u and i do have alot in common. idk that could be the E6 similiarity. could still buy SLI for you tho. curious to see what others have to say.

yeah we have a ton in common. This would make so much more sense than SLI though. Where's Ashton? He's my dual now!!!!

[marooned]

i could see you as ESI... or SLI... or LSI... or ILI... or...

[discojoe]

You're SLI. You have no awareness of Fe at all.

SLIs have a tendency to feel awkward about something, and then publicly voice their feelings, not realizing that doing actually makes it ten times more awkward.

*someone at dinner farts and no one knows who*

Jessica: "Does anyone else find it awkward that someone just farted?"



Horrible, horrible, horrible. The reason people refrain from talking about the awkward event is so that it will fade away from the social "vibe" or whatever, and allow people to move on. Voicing the awkwardness out loud makes the situation much worse and is a horrible trait.

THAT IS THE WAY YOU ARE

[Creepy-Snaps]

Voicing the awkwardness out loud makes the situation much worse and is a horrible trait.

THAT IS THE WAY YOU ARE

I don't have a strong opinion on her type, but assuming she is SLI, I'm sure there are a lot of positive traits she has, too.

[Gilly]

LSI

[jessica129]

You're SLI. You have no awareness of Fe at all.

SLIs have a tendency to feel awkward about something, and then publicly voice their feelings, not realizing that doing actually makes it ten times more awkward.

*someone at dinner farts and no one knows who*

Jessica: "Does anyone else find it awkward that someone just farted?"



Horrible, horrible, horrible. The reason people refrain from talking about the awkward event is so that it will fade away from the social "vibe" or whatever, and allow people to move on. Voicing the awkwardness out loud makes the situation much worse and is a horrible trait.

THAT IS THE WAY YOU ARE

Well ok yeah I would say something like that but that's not the sole reason for me being SLI. I know saying something like that would probably make things more awkward but I just wouldn't care so whatever. What SLI do you know who cries a lot and gets into horrible rage fits because someone isn't giving them any sort of emotional response whatsoever? It can't be overlooked. The way people describe SLI's here are nothing like me. I'm not that robotic. I cry and get pissed and yell. It seems SLI's aren't even capable of doing something like that. It seems so out of character.

[Creepy-Snaps]

Well ok yeah I would say something like that but that's not the sole reason for me being SLI. I know saying something like that would probably make things more awkward but I just wouldn't care so whatever. What SLI do you know who cries a lot and gets into horrible rage fits because someone isn't giving them any sort of emotional response whatsoever? It can't be overlooked. The way people describe SLI's here are nothing like me. I'm not that robotic. I cry and get pissed and yell. It seems SLI's aren't even capable of doing something like that. It seems so out of character.

Yes definitely, the SLI stereotype is dumb.

But maybe it's also a gender stereotype because you're a girl? Or maybe you're ISFp?

Would you say you're very emotional frequently, and more up and down, or are you more stable?

Also, since people can't place you in which quadra, could you please talk a bit about how you view Si/Se.

What's your favorite place to relax?
What would you be willing to die for?

[FDG]

Well ok yeah I would say something like that but that's not the sole reason for me being SLI. I know saying something like that would probably make things more awkward but I just wouldn't care so whatever. What SLI do you know who cries a lot and gets into horrible rage fits because someone isn't giving them any sort of emotional response whatsoever? It can't be overlooked. The way people describe SLI's here are nothing like me. I'm not that robotic. I cry and get pissed and yell. It seems SLI's aren't even capable of doing something like that. It seems so out of character.

thats becuz ur a woman

[jessica129]

Yeah. Well all of my problems center around relationships and how much i completely suck at them. ahhh

[jessica129]

If you want to attach a type explanation for it, it sounds related to being a Reactive enneatype—which includes 4, 6 and 8:

People whose dominant Harmonic Style is the reactive style are emotionally reactive under stress. They tend to work themselves up when a problem happens and have a hard time containing their feelings. This emotional intensity allows them to feel the "realness" of the problem, even if it is a relatively small one. Venting their frustration allows them to move on to dealing with the issue. Wanting others to see the realness of the problem, they expect others to react emotionally. Such a reaction would confirm that others agree that indeed this is a big deal. If others don't respond in the way the Reactive Style types want, they may become even more frustrated and emotional.

The Reactive Style types do not naturally trust others. They have strong opinions and tastes and want to know where others stand.

Their desire for a strong emotional response from others may be a test of trust.

WOW well this says it all...everything I ever wanted to get across. Perfect. That's exactly how I am.

[jessica129]

I like that idea. SLILSIESISLE Ne Polr/Fe Polr with sometimes Fi Polr Te-Subtype 6w5 or 6w7 depending on the day. Actually that really sums me up quite well. New signature.

[discojoe]

FWIW, it pisses me off too when a person cuts me off emotionally and is being a cold bitch. I don't need a lot of attention or reassurance… but I can usually tell straightaway when someone's keeping me at a distance and that something 'funny' is up, and I'm going to want to know what it is. I'll try to be patient and understanding initially, but if they get standoffish and evasive, then odds are there'll be a big fight over it they finally surrender an emotional response. Or I'll get real cold and do the same thing back at them until they crack.

I sympathize, but conditionally. I agree that this sort of personified passive-aggressiveness is intolerable, but a lot of the time the girl is just fucking with you, consciously hoping you'll play along and apologize or whatever. She thinks she wants to feel that you adore her and will do anything to resolve predicament. What she actually wants is for you to assertively proclaim yourself innocent and demand that she cease and desist. Women don't actually want to control you. That will make them resent you. They play their little mind games to test us, see if we can see through them and assert ourselves.

A tip: And the absolute best way to break their faux ice queen spell is to make them laugh. It immediately illegitimizes their grievance.

When it comes to actual adulation, girls want it to be spontaneous and unprovoked (except in certain situations where it's expected). They want you to be dominant, but they want glowing affection at the same time. The only way to achieve this is to incorporate that adulation into your dominant, masculine role. That way they can rely on you for both physical and emotional support. "The big strong man cares enough about me to get me flowers and rub my neck, and he does it without asking, because he's the one in charge."

Before LSE and SEE women jump on the "burn discojoe alive" ship, I need to clarify something.

What I just described was slanted in a Beta direction for the sake of coherency. I still think these rules apply to other quadras but will manifest differently. An SEE will want her adorable and ingenious ILI to be "Aww, so sweet." See, the knowledge that her typically inert partner has the bravery to take on the macho man role (macho from the ILI's perspective), impresses her, because the courage it took to do that indicates to her that he will protect her and care for her, even though she doesn't feel like she needs that physical kind of defending. She still wants to know that the qualities are there and that she can depend on him emotionally. He's an autonomous carer, so she can fall back on his strength. And she will. She'll come home exhausted, see her ILI programming a robot or some bullshit, and say "Come here, my sexy man." He will instantly comply, and she will snuggle him and feel safe.

So like I said, it varies between quadras, but I think it holds true with all men and all women.

[Creepy-female]

SLIs have a tendency to feel awkward about something, and then publicly voice their feelings, not realizing that doing actually makes it ten times more awkward.

*someone at dinner farts and no one knows who*

Jessica: "Does anyone else find it awkward that someone just farted?"

If I could I would marry this trait and we would go on vacation to Hawaii. Thank the lord for Te polr. DON'T EVER CHANGE

[FDG]

If I could I would marry this trait and we would go on vacation to Hawaii. Thank the lord for Te polr. DON'T EVER CHANGE

u mean Fe PoLR

[discojoe]

Well ok yeah I would say something like that but that's not the sole reason for me being SLI. I know saying something like that would probably make things more awkward but I just wouldn't care so whatever. What SLI do you know who cries a lot and gets into horrible rage fits because someone isn't giving them any sort of emotional response whatsoever? It can't be overlooked. The way people describe SLI's here are nothing like me. I'm not that robotic. I cry and get pissed and yell. It seems SLI's aren't even capable of doing something like that. It seems so out of character.

Hmm, maybe this is a subtype thing, because Diana is Se sub and she would be much more likely to react similarly to you, but she'd still find it embarrassing. I'm Ti sub and I'd be absolutely mortified if I impulsively said something like that in formal company. Among friends it's permissible, since personal shame is protected behind camaraderie.

You do remind me of Diana in some ways. SLIs tend to shun my shock humor, whereas you've both admitted to enjoying it. It's just that you're so fucking awkward, lmao.

Well... now that I think about it, your joining the military out of some sense of striving for stimulation is more of a LSI thing. It's Se creative going off and impulsively participating in things that appear fun. Se creative seeking Fe. Diana is extremely impulsive; I can't say more than that, but trust me. I've called her insane, and she's without a doubt LSI, we have too much in common.

Yeah. Well all of my problems center around relationships and how much i completely suck at them. ahhh

Not type-related, and altogether subjective. If you're LSI, then find a Beta NF and let him get into your head. Find George and let him mind meld with you. You'll feel all wooie and wawa and he'll think you're funny, if anything.

Amirite

I done been calling this shit.

mirite

Nah, i'm pretty sure it's all out flipping out...verbally flipping out...I don't punch things or whatever. I've gotten called crazy before on multiple occassions but if that's how I feel I need to act in that situation, oh well..too bad.. guess I'm crazy. What's crazy to me is when I'm getting crazy and the other person just sits there and doesn't give me anything back. Basically infuriates me to the point it keeps going. And what SLI would yell about personal things in a room full of people as they're talking on the phone? Stupid things like that that keep me questioning it. I did that yesterday and came and posted this thread afterwards because i thought 'wow, how Un-SLI of you, must make a thread about it'.

Make a video where you ramble on about shit. Stuff you hate, stuff you like, and let me see it. I'll tell you your type.

If I could I would marry this trait and we would go on vacation to Hawaii. Thank the lord for Te polr. DON'T EVER CHANGE

It's cuter when ILIs do it, but still annoying . There would be times in tinychat when I would be annoying (leaving it there because FREUDIAN SLIP LOLOL. meant to say annoyed) and want to drop something, and nanashi would take it unto herself to summarize in detail what was transpiring and to describe the nature and causes of my negative emotional state.

She's all like and I'm like