I wasn't actually flirting with you though. I was fucking around.Originally Posted by borderline
A good response would have been linking me to a pic of a dead ostrich or something. What you said was totally unexpected and I laughed pretty hard, even though it was COLD SISTAH.
Ooooh, nice insight Slacker!! I like the way you put that.
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YAY!!!I swear, IEE's are saints. I don't know how they deal with SLI's half of the time. I do a lot of testing...that's usually the only way I can know for sure how someone feels unless they come right out and say it all the time and who really does that?
I'M SLI AGAIN!
and i was actually one of those people who ended up coming right out and saying how i felt to the SLI dude I knew after a lot of push-pull "testing" (at least what i thought it was).Except my confession basically disappeared into an abyss because he never responded, even to say he didn't feel the same way.
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Yeah I think Slacker broke it down in simple enough terms and by that definition i'm definetly Fi seeking. lol I have to stop doing this. Stop questioning. I think SLI's just freeze half the time and can't muster up the courage to respond or dont' want to appear vulnerable but still...i can at least understand you should respond one way or the other when someone pours their feelings out because that's never easy.YAY!!!
and i was actually one of those people who ended up coming right out and saying how i felt to the SLI dude I knew.
Yeah i figured... I did point it out to him later in a subsequent email a few months later (long story) and i told him that i'm adult enough to understand that feelings arent always mutual he didn't have to completely ignore me.
Hopefully he will take his dual's advice for next time he encounters an IEE. I'm glad to hear ur more mature than he is.You're right, it really was not easy for me to make that confession.
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IEI-Fe 4w3
ISTps are just like that. They're the stereotypical man who tells you he loves you by doing things instead of saying them. Saying I love you is very awkward for them.
Yes, exactly. I think my SLI ex wrote "I love you" once on a birthday card (and even that was phrased sort of tentatively) and never actually said it in six years. But there was no doubt that he did love me, he just showed it differently.
“Life shrinks or expands in proportion to one's courage.”
― Anais Nin
SLI men have it much easier than SLI women. It's not really seen as 'cute' or whatever when they act like that.
Which would be why SLIs have IEEs as their duals.
May I ask what type your husband might be?
“Life shrinks or expands in proportion to one's courage.”
― Anais Nin
SLI so a lot ofWhich would be why SLIs have IEEs as their duals.
May I ask what type your husband might be?going on. Although it has helped me realize how I am and how frustrating I'm sure I can be at times and I've made a conscious effort to change those parts of myself.
You're both SLI?SLI so a lot of
there's so many alphas and betas where i live atm, i'm gonna
jessica you're married?? I didn't realize that...SLI so a lot of
I'm so sorry...there's so many alphas and betas where i live atm, i'm gonna
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so if he is SLI, do you see him as having all the SLI stereotypical characteristics that made you doubt SLI for yourself and that you didn't like about the type? like robotic, no emotions coming out etc.SLI so a lot of
Possibly. I mean it's impossible to get a rise out of him, nothing ever seems to affect him and I'm the exact opposite that's why I question my type a lot (not just in regards to how he is, but with life in general...I just seem a lot more reactive). When it comes down to it, it may just be the male/female thing, who knows.
you typed yourself as LSI before, why did you come back to SLI typing? what wasn't right about LSI?
Maybe he feels the same way about you? Or maybe what you said: the male/female thing and you just break down sooner than he does...
or you two have different ways of "testing" each others' love. Where he stoically ignores, and you (perhaps as a result) try to push Fi-buttons.
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ISTp.
She's mainly thought SLI. There was a relatively brief period of thinking she was LSI after a thread where she talked about stealing someone's hot dog and people thought that didn't sound like something an SLI would do.
It ain't what you don't know that gets you into trouble. It's what you know for sure that just ain't so.-Mark Twain
You can't wake a person who is pretending to be asleep.
I was hungry and drunk and there was a hot dog in front of me. Any logical person would do what I did. I AM STILL SLI. IGNORE THIS THREAD. I need to stop doing this, it's embarassing.
Being hot-tempered and reactive is not necessarily type-related.
“Life shrinks or expands in proportion to one's courage.”
― Anais Nin
I need to remember that
sounds like a good response to me, then
maybe a saint is just a dead prick with a good publicist
maybe tommorow's statues are insecure without their foes
go ask the frog what the scorpion knows
I didn't say she was or wasn't LSI, just asked why she felt it was wrong since she typed herself that way once. Reactivity doesn't point to SLI either. Maybe what she said doesn't have to point to any type.
I have a horrible temper, which I inherited from my EII dad.
“Life shrinks or expands in proportion to one's courage.”
― Anais Nin
I can't believe that people seriously answer this thread.
Do you really expect that this time is different, this time her type gets resolved, and she will not start a new type thread next month?
Let's conserve threads and just keep this one rolling.
DIE
At least you've got the good taste to pick a macabre Polish surrealist's paintings as your avatars.
lol, aw.. i don't think it's a big deal, ignore assholes.
I guess I hit a weak spot '-)
it's really cool. much better than most.
IEI-Fe 4w3
A new one will soon replace the one I have now. It's frustrating that I don't have photoshop on my laptop so I can't alter my avatar the way I'd like to...even though his original stuff is great, it's a little too dark and gloomy for avatars so must alter it with pretty colors when I get my pc back. I can't wait.
me likes the dark/gloomy.
IEI-Fe 4w3
Based on you past posts you do sound like a static logical sensing type - LSI.
may be this is because you are a beta type yourself
How did you find that? I really don't like when people do that to me. I need all of my old posts deleted. Mods, help
If you have a personality, you're beta!
Haha!
Have you seen this, Jessica129? And do you relate?
The Resilient ISTj
Most ISTjs are quickly perceived as quite, thoughtful and steady when viewed from a distance. They are the “inspectors” in society. Their thought process seems to be slow, through, and meticulous. This is because they do not trust their ability to juggle many things at once, but prefer deep, sequential evaluations. They love clarity and consistency, and often shun unexpected changes or disorganization. They sometimes like to show a dominant appearance; chest out, back stiff, and preferring to look at an angle down on people. They are steady and controlled with their movements. When ISTjs smile, it is usually a small, confident smile, yet not big enough to show off their teeth.
ISTjs attempt to control themselves and their emotions most of the time. They value being patient, considerate, and objective while dealing with people. This can change, however, when you test their patience too long. They can sometimes be susceptible to sudden changes in attitude, and become overly aggressive. When this happens, they raise their voice, criticizing what they consider to be the “wrongs” done, gesticulating wildly. ISTjs are stalwarts who love power and control, and they like their presence to be known. They can get very upset when they feel like people aren’t paying attention to them while they are speaking.
ISTjs pay a lot of attention to details while working. They don’t always view everything at the same time, but they try and uncover every stone. They take a clear, narrow view at one particular fact, then dig through, meticulously and analytically, to slowly reveal and see the whole picture; not vaguely and intuitively, but clearly and confidently. In this respect, they value a certain quality much higher than a lot of quantity. The work that ISTjs do they do with effort and dedication. Everything, including their free time, must have a purpose to an ISTj. They are willful, and are usually good at getting the work done that is required.
An ISTj will usually have a high respect for authority and rules, and expects that everyone follow societal norms. A person high up in the order is considered a superior, and they attempt to show respect for them even if they truly believe that their “superior” is under qualified. ISTjs are generally independent, proud workers. They enjoy it when people show responsibility and morality in their actions. They attempt to be non-judgmental and tactful with people, but sometimes this is hard for them to maintain.
ISTjs like to keep people and their surroundings regimented and are demanding of people around them. They’d prefer to keep things in their perfect place, not changing unnecessarily. They can be become uneasy around too much change, and prefer things to be planned out. Once they find the “right” way to do something, they generally keep and obeyed by it. They are not spontaneous, but pensive and cautious, wanting time for correct and honest evaluations.
ISTjs generally prefer to the outdoors and experiencing things for themselves. They may not care much about learning from books, although they will tolerate it to a point. Some ISTjs enjoy nature. They analyze and observe sport with the same attention they put into everything else. They are empirical, and will only believe what they can see and experience for themselves. They may not respect your intelligence if you make too many mistakes and don’t show the carefulness that they do.
If you are considered special to the ISTj, they will be loyal, responsible, and compassionate. They can sometimes be overly serious, although they respect courage and commitment. If you can fit into the ISTjs idea of rules and structure, then they will try their best to keep a stable, meaningful relationship with you.
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