Originally Posted by
lemontrees
Thanks so much guys. I really really appreciate it.
I agree that losing anyone is hard, especially so suddenly. It's probably true that socionics doesn't have much to do with it. I've been dealing by forcing myself to eat, sleep, and seek out company when I need it.
My ILE friend was very crazy and "fun" but there was also a dark, unwell side to his craziness. He abused drugs often, including ones that he was prescribed for ADD/depression. Despite this, everyone who knew him (and he seemed to know everyone) knew him as an extraordinarily loving person who had a talent for bringing brightness into other people's lives.
Crazy stories:
Once, some other friends and I were on our way to grab Indian food when we ran into him sitting on a bench on the street. We asked if he wanted to come with, and he had nothing better to do, so he decided to hang out with us. Once we got there the waiter served us water. Next thing I know, he's downed all the water in a single gulp. Then, he takes out a single shot size bottle of Jim Beam from his pocket and pours it right into the goblet at the restaurant, and sips that for the rest of the time while making conversation. He never even ordered food lol. Halfway through he gets bored again and pulls out a tiny mini laptop and just starts checking his email. Then, he tries to convince me that it's "the way of the future" and that I had to buy one too haha.
This other time, he somehow found a 21 year old folk musician who had just come into the city with no aim or place to stay. This guy was super talented and resembled a hotter version of young Dylan. So my friend hooks him up with some people at my school, saying that "talent needs to be nourished." He even tries to convince my poet roommate to write lyrics for the guy to "help him reach his potential." And then the musician stays in these guys' dorm for three months, does nothing, and randomly leaves again.
Another time he was taking a bus between Boston and Nyc. The busdriver drops everyone off at burger king; then, he doesn't realize that my friend's taking his time eating and just leaves without him. My friend then hitchhikes at 110 mph with a random mother/son and actually catches up to the bus and makes him get off the highway and stop and let him back on. He gets on the bus and grins at the busdriver; the busdriver just shrugs.
He loved to cook and he knew I did too, so he would always tell me his favorite recipes. But he always wanted everything his way, like only he knew how to cook everything best!! It drove me crazy because I can't stand anyone telling me how to prepare food. But he really wanted to cook together so we did. The first time, I cooked dinner for him, but he fell asleep the whole time I was cooking instead of helping me!! The second time, he was cooking lunch for me, but he made me do all the cutting and stuff while he just directed and carried out his "vision"!! I didn't mind b/c i love cutting vegetables, but it was so funny.