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They are a feeling of warmth to me.
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Dual type (as per tcaudilllg)
Enneagram 5 (wings either 4 or 6)?
I'm constantly looking to align the real with the ideal.I've been more oriented toward being overly idealistic by expecting the real to match the ideal. My thinking side is dominent. The result is that sometimes I can be overly impersonal or self-centered in my approach, not being understanding of others in the process and simply thinking "you should do this" or "everyone should follor this rule"..."regardless of how they feel or where they're coming from"which just isn't a good attitude to have. It is a way, though, to give oneself an artificial sense of self-justification. LSE
Best description of functions:
http://socionicsstudy.blogspot.com/2...functions.html
I feel like I need a break from them. But I am attracted to them somehow.
I can't win. No matter how hard I try.
But afterward, after getting away from them, and thinking about what they said, I find it quite helpful.
My Benefactors impress me. ESFj's are like, the ultimate "super moms." So dedicated to their friends and family, and seemingly tireless. Excellent hosts/hostesses. Happy in the present, look back on the past with fondness. Maybe a little too worried about the future at times, but don't seem to dwell on it excessively. They are generous and warm-hearted.
Can be a little too smothering at times. My ESE grandmother, whenever we go to visit, is constantly reminding us to feel free to eat anything in the house. Especially if there are treats laying around, she will occasionally bring the plate or dish to the table as we are having lunch or whatever, expecting us to stuff our faces. We cannot go for a visit to her house without coming home with a few "free" groceries (she'd send us home with half a cupboard full if we'd let her).
Also, while they seem to almost effortlessly keep their homes spotless and their social lives full, their minds seem...devoid of something. I cannot seem to have a good intellectual conversation with an ESFj; their minds are just constantly occupied with more mundane thoughts and all they care to talk about are things like potty training, health issues, the weather, shopping, fashion, TV shows like "Cake Boss," or "Hollywood Runway" (or whatever that fashion show is called)...
But, on a superficial level, I enjoy my Benefactors. And they inspire me to come home and clean up my house!
My life's work (haha):
http://www.the16types.info/vbulletin/blog.php?b=709
Input, PLEASEAnd thank you
Not all "super moms" are ESFjs.
And we don't need this to turn into a thread describing what your Benefactor does. You can start another thread for personal experience with types, this thread is simply how you feel. Your last 2 sentences would have been enough:
Sorry to 'police' the forum like this, but I feel just describing ESFjs was way off topic. And I'm just curious too, how people feel after the interaction.
Last edited by Beautiful sky; 03-09-2011 at 03:26 PM.
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Dual type (as per tcaudilllg)
Enneagram 5 (wings either 4 or 6)?
I'm constantly looking to align the real with the ideal.I've been more oriented toward being overly idealistic by expecting the real to match the ideal. My thinking side is dominent. The result is that sometimes I can be overly impersonal or self-centered in my approach, not being understanding of others in the process and simply thinking "you should do this" or "everyone should follor this rule"..."regardless of how they feel or where they're coming from"which just isn't a good attitude to have. It is a way, though, to give oneself an artificial sense of self-justification. LSE
Best description of functions:
http://socionicsstudy.blogspot.com/2...functions.html
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Dual type (as per tcaudilllg)
Enneagram 5 (wings either 4 or 6)?
I'm constantly looking to align the real with the ideal.I've been more oriented toward being overly idealistic by expecting the real to match the ideal. My thinking side is dominent. The result is that sometimes I can be overly impersonal or self-centered in my approach, not being understanding of others in the process and simply thinking "you should do this" or "everyone should follor this rule"..."regardless of how they feel or where they're coming from"which just isn't a good attitude to have. It is a way, though, to give oneself an artificial sense of self-justification. LSE
Best description of functions:
http://socionicsstudy.blogspot.com/2...functions.html
Love ESEs. I have lots of ESE friends, and they make me feel energized and happy.
I would say this might be different based on the specific benefactor pair.
It ain't what you don't know that gets you into trouble. It's what you know for sure that just ain't so.-Mark Twain
You can't wake a person who is pretending to be asleep.
Oh, I thought of one negative feeling I sometimes get from ESEs. Sometimes it feels like they don't take me very seriously. It takes a long time to prove that I know what I'm talking about. Once I've proven myself, things are ok, but until they know me pretty well, they don't take me seriously and dismiss what I say pretty easily.
It ain't what you don't know that gets you into trouble. It's what you know for sure that just ain't so.-Mark Twain
You can't wake a person who is pretending to be asleep.