I never really know if someone has a thing for me or not, and I know that acting on something could bring more discomfort than not acting on something... that and I don't want anyone to feel bad if we're looking for different things, or if being with one person would effectively rule out billions of others... I always want to make sure I'm physically attractive on some level to make sure things go solid for me (and based on the low-on-SEE results of the sexual attraction thread, I've got a lot of work ahead of me)...