Looking for an ENFj female

[silverchris9]

That doesn't seem to be something that I can change, no matter how much I try. It's a weird form of perfectionism, and even attempts to eliminate it are a manifestation of it. It's far easier and more realistic to find someone who accepts me to a degree that I don't feel the need to do that. I have that with some of my friends, where they can say anything about anyone and it doesn't affect me at all because I know they love me regardless of any qualities I have or to what degree. With them, it doesn't even cross my mind to judge myself so harshly. Imposing yet another impossible standard upon myself (eliminating any self-judging) is most definitely NOT the answer. I need less standards to meet (and trying to rewrite my entire self and personality is definitley another standard) not more.

+a billion. Yeah.

[Beautiful sky]

How was that weird? Brooding over people who surpass you in various arenas is a waste of time. Just do what you can with what you've got.

no comment...

Why would you be insecure about people being better than you at everything? What does that have to do with you? It's just meaningless data. Ignore it.

"Just do it"

No comment...but a question...
Why doesn't Squark tell people what to do?

(anyone else would like to receive orders?)

[redbaron]

life has a pretty wonderful way of putting in our paths people who may not have every one of those checklisted traits, but who make up for whatever could be missing by possessing other fine qualities we never even imagined or expected.

I love this.

Oh, and dj, I don't think your wish list is, or should be, that difficult to fulfill. I bet you'll be surprised someday.

[discojoe]

BUT WHERE IS SHE

And there's a new girl at work who likes me now. Some introvert, really nice body. Not interested in drama, so I'll ignore her.

[Beautiful sky]

Funny enough, EIE are a very rare type and it just so happens that they are all located in your office.

BUT WHERE IS SHE

And there's a new girl at work who likes me now. Some introvert, really nice body. Not interested in drama, so I'll ignore her.

I'm sorry you're not attracted to me physically. But, at least you know your type now and can look for someone other than an EIE, or an SEE, or a Beta.

At least 6/10 in physical attractiveness.

Socionically speaking, minimum attraction is all it takes, and I guess you're smart enough to get that.

[lemon]

lay off, brothas
Discojoe is the disco type.

[squark]

no comment...



"Just do it"

No comment...but a question...
Why doesn't Squark tell people what to do?

(anyone else would like to receive orders?)

Actually Maritsa, I've given people that exact same advice before. I do think people should do what they can with what they have. That is absolutely true in general, and I also do not give a moment's thought to comparing myself to others IN GENERAL.

However, when it comes to relationships, the closer I am or want to be to someone the more it matters to me that it's ME they like, and that they are not comparing me to other people or liking only qualities that I have rather than me.

Dj's advice is exactly what I'd tell someone who was concerned about general comparisons. It just doesn't apply imo when you come to personal relationship matters. If it was something I could just forget or easily change about myself, I would have already done it. His solution won't work for me, but mine will (finding people who accept me.)

[discojoe]

Stop kidding yourself. I mean, you're dual is EIE. lol

Touché indeed.

[discojoe]

Actually Maritsa, I've given people that exact same advice before. I do think people should do what they can with what they have. That is absolutely true in general, and I also do not give a moment's thought to comparing myself to others IN GENERAL.

However, when it comes to relationships, the closer I am or want to be to someone the more it matters to me that it's ME they like, and that they are not comparing me to other people or liking only qualities that I have rather than me.

Dj's advice is exactly what I'd tell someone who was concerned about general comparisons. It just doesn't apply imo when you come to personal relationship matters. If it was something I could just forget or easily change about myself, I would have already done it. His solution won't work for me, but mine will (finding people who accept me.)

If someone likes you in a mature, healthy way, then you don't even need to think about any of these things, because of course they like YOU for who YOU are.

[discojoe]

Funny enough, EIE are a very rare type and it just so happens that they are all located in your office.



I'm sorry you're not attracted to me physically. But, at least you know your type now and can look for someone other than an EIE, or an SEE, or a Beta.




Socionically speaking, minimum attraction is all it takes, and I guess you're smart enough to get that.

Oh shut up. Quit being ridiculous.

[Beautiful sky]

Actually Maritsa, I've given people that exact same advice before. I do think people should do what they can with what they have. That is absolutely true in general, and I also do not give a moment's thought to comparing myself to others IN GENERAL.

However, when it comes to relationships, the closer I am or want to be to someone the more it matters to me that it's ME they like, and that they are not comparing me to other people or liking only qualities that I have rather than me.

Dj's advice is exactly what I'd tell someone who was concerned about general comparisons. It just doesn't apply imo when you come to personal relationship matters. If it was something I could just forget or easily change about myself, I would have already done it. His solution won't work for me, but mine will (finding people who accept me.)

Except when you say it you suggest with the word "should"

"Should" is most commonly used to make recommendations or give advice. It can also be used to express obligation as well as expectation.