Originally Posted by
silverchris9
There aren't any concrete behaviors to use that will not cause more harm than good to your understanding of the differences between Fe-valuers and Fi-valuers.
Regardless, some general observations:
I think it helps to start by noticing what environments/people are obviously Fe-egos and obviously Fe-superid. With Fe, the reactions are bigger, the emotions are closer to the surface. Aretha Franklin. Beethoven's Fifth Symphony. Ode to the West Wind. Alice in Wonderland. Exuberance. Fe-superid eats this up, will even do things to provoke an Fe reaction. Emotions on the face, where we can see them. When an Fe-superid person can't tell what another person is feeling (this generally happens with extrovert Fe-HA and introvert Fe-Creative) they will do things to provoke the Fe, as Golden said.
Fi is cooler. Miles Davis. Will Smith (not Fresh Prince arms flying everywhere Will Smith, but I'm-a-cool-guy Hitch Will Smith). Less excitable, less motion. Emotions aren't worn on their sleeves. I experience Fi valuers as at once distance of remove from the emotions you see on their faces (Fi valuers would probably describe Fe-egos the same way though...).
Environments that involve a lot of ribbing, jokes at each other's expense, etc. will usually be more Fe (really, more beta). Fe is archetypally that large, loud gathering of people, all talking over one another, constantly interrupting each other, fighting for who can tell the best joke, the best story, whatever. Simmering conversation followed by explosions of laughter. ESEs like to give frequent "I love you"s whenever someone does something that meets their approval.
Fi environments are archetypally more gentle. Everyone loves a good joke, but there will be less dramatic falling on the floor type laughter. Less shouting from the rooftops.
Fe is direct knowledge of how to cause motion: internal dynamics of objects. Fe is the awareness of, this person is sad, this action will make them happy. Or, this person is happy, this action will make them sad. Like I remember one time my brother said something that pissed me off, and he kept going on the same topic, and I was like, "I'm sorry, were you still talking?" And I said it in an asshole-ish way that obviously communicated my displeasure, and which was calculated to make him feel bad as well. Fi valuers, to my experience, are more likely to talk about their feelings: "When you said x, it made me feel y." Fe valuers are more like to communicate their feelings like in the example about me and my brother. It's something where you get angry, or happy, or sad, or uncomfortable from the manner of expression, rather than the expression itself being a literal explanation of what the person is feeling.