ILIs-INTps dealing with conflict and confrontation

[Sir Knight]

Wat

You don't understand ILI if you think this will work. ILIs see life in ultimatums when it comes to real confrontation. He knows once he brings it up with the guy it will be a battle of wills, because he let it go on for so long. The guy doesn't respect him anymore.

This is why SEE is such a good partner as a diplomat because it's really not that serious. But ILIs allow themselves to reach that point because it's the path of least resistance.

The only solution is for him to get real - real soon. And for him to be relentless. A physical fight may ensue.

Huh. I can dig that. Essentially they just let things slide externally and don't confront the people who make them uncomfortable because to actually do that would have to be a decisive confrontation, yes? Like, not just a small skirmish but an all-out war? Or is that only in cases like this where it's been passive for so long?

Whatever the case, it makes sense.

[silke]

In my experience it's a Fi defense backed up by Ni. They will start telling you about what is important to them which is usually based on their own personal sentiments (Fi). Then say that they don't want to waste their time on you any longer (Ni). Then they go away and start avoiding. It usually takes them some time to recover their cool back. If they are confronting and not defending then it is Te-Se. They may tell you what is logical to do, call you moronic for not doing it, sometimes raise their voice a notch.

[Sir Knight]

You know, now that I think about it, I'm reminded of your fighting styles thread, that Ni-types prefer to focus on singular, distant targets. Would you say this kind of behaviour is broadly applicable to all Ni-types? Like, a general passivity that continues until some breaking point that forces the Ni-type to consider the person the current "target" and focus all of their energy on dealing with it?

[EyeSeeCold]

Huh. I can dig that. Essentially they just let things slide externally and don't confront the people who make them uncomfortable because to actually do that would have to be a decisive confrontation, yes? Like, not just a small skirmish but an all-out war? Or is that only in cases like this where it's been passive for so long?

Whatever the case, it makes sense.

Yes that's it. The external situations just batter them and they mentally retreat, not necessarily because they're weak. It's the repressed , the latent will. Every day the problem escalates. Pertaining to interpersonal conflicts, it's so easy to just let everything just slip by. A fight is not really worth risking all the time, so they wait and see if they will have to resort to that by letting it go on. They can explode, though in a different manner than other types, pure physical aggression(E8). I assume IEIs are similar.

You know, now that I think about it, I'm reminded of your fighting styles thread, that Ni-types prefer to focus on singular, distant targets. Would you say this kind of behaviour is broadly applicable to all Ni-types? Like, a general passivity that continues until some breaking point that forces the Ni-type to consider the person the current "target" and focus all of their energy on dealing with it?

In general, yea Egos use time / foresight as a tool. Though, like expected, ENxjs are not as passive, but they can let problems accumulate. Not to get too stereotypical, but LIEs are the dead-beat dad stereotypes, who ignore their family for business matters.

[Sir Knight]

Yes that's it. The external situations just batter them and they mentally retreat, not necessarily because they're weak. It's the repressed , the latent will. Every day the problem escalates. Pertaining to interpersonal conflicts, it's so easy to just let everything just slip by. A fight is not really worth risking all the time, so they wait and see if they will have to resort to that by letting it go on. They can explode, though in a different manner than other types, pure physical aggression(E8). I assume IEIs are similar.

Yeah, I can definitely recognize this kind of behavior in myself. Essentially just, "This might resolve itself on its own without me having to endanger myself or damage my relationships and cause more trouble for myself down the line."