Feeling types, why F over T?

[tcaudilllg]

Interaction... I keep hearing that word over and over in this thread from the Fs. Perhaps it means something....

Fs, do you feel it is important that you be "in control of" other people?

[Simon Ssmall]

Well to begin with its not like it is a choice as Galen said. You just do. To me its just a natural thing to do and something which makes the most sense.

Humans are social beings and most of what we have is due to cooperation and in order to do that we need to understand one another. Thats a very dry way to explain things of course.

Feelings its what drives most of our decisions and if you learn to understand people and deal with them it makes your life much easier not to mention much more pleasant.

Neither of those positive things are some isolated reasons though. Its like breathing, you do it, you dont think about it, you dont know how to do it differently. Its not even really a choice, its what I am.

Fs, do you feel it is important that you be "in control of" other people?

No. Not to mention where is the fun in that? On the other hand I am sort of "in control of" some people, epecially at work and it does benefit me. Much of what I achieved in my company is due to the fact I know how to get along with my co-workers, how to make a good impression for the client etc., how to say sentences in a manner my boss would accept it. So it is important in that sense, but overall its not something I occupy my mind with. However to be in control of my own emotions is important for me.

[munenori2]

Well, it's a weird question, but I guess from my point of view it just seems like focusing on the cold logic of things often obscures the personal factor, which to me is the main point of anything involving people in the first place. I mean, I completely understand the hows and the where-for's of syllogisms or, say, streamlining a process to reduce labor, but to me if that's all there is then something's wrong, something's lost. It makes me think of work and how much of the upper management are so deeply attentive to issues of productivity that they routinely treat employees like cogs, demoralize them, and seemingly promote an adversarial relationship between themselves and the people working under them.

[Galen]

Fs, do you feel it is important that you be "in control of" other people?

Not particularly. If I'm in a position of leadership then of course I'd like to know what everybody is doing so I can manage it in some way; basically everything that Ssmall already said. But when it comes to relationships on a more meaningful level then I really couldn't think of being "in control" of the other person as healthy.

[tcaudilllg]

Allow me to be more specific: is it important for you, as feeling types, to be in control of others' emotional states?

[Simon Ssmall]

Allow me to be more specific: is it important for you, as feeling types, to be in control of others' emotional states?

As I said, when it comes to others - not so much. It is important when it comes to myself. Either way in some cases it is important for me, like I dont want someone to be upset with me as that makes me feel bad myself. And even then its not about "control" it more or less about influence. I dont want to "control" anything whatsoever.

[krieger]

I'm T because I want to understand human emotions rather than be engaged with them in a way that obscures their nature from me.

[Galen]

Allow me to be more specific: is it important for you, as feeling types, to be in control of others' emotional states?

Not really. It's much more important for me to understand other people's emotions/feelings/what have you, because I feel that manipulating people's states on my own free will is reckless and mean. Some Fe valuers feel like they are subconsciously manipulating other people's emotional states, so I guess it can seem controlling to non-Fe valuers.

I'm T because I want to understand human emotions rather than be engaged with them in a way that obscures their nature from me.

Hmm, for you how does engaging in emotions/feelings obscure their nature? As far as I'm concerned, the nature of emotions is that they are meant to be engaged with. As such, to be anywhere outside of one's emotions isn't really understanding them.

[Cuddly McFluffles]

Allow me to be more specific: is it important for you, as feeling types, to be in control of others' emotional states?

Wahahaha... It's fun.