@ gilligan87: Oh, ok. When I first read it I thought you meant, "Look, there are differences between them." But then I wasn't sure. Because I hadn't really talked about their differences yet. Good thing I asked.

@ Rocky, Phaedrus, and Expat: Sorry! I'll try to give more examples and less interpretation. Would concrete examples be like the stories I've told, where I say what I observed in certain situations?

The problem is, I'm not exactly sure what you're looking for, so I'm not sure what to give you. Generally, my automatic response is to let my observations subconsciously form into generalizations that I'm consciously aware of. It's hard to do it backwards where I consciously observe and supress the conclusions. So that's why I asked earlier if there are things I should be looking for.