Hello, I'm new

Could someone give some insight on a ESTPmale16 vs. an INFJ39 mom?

Could any two people be farther apart? Is there any common ground that can be found until the child is able move out and be self sufficient? The male does not respect the authority of the female over his life. Father is INTJ and tries to mediate, mother is exhausted and takes long breaks to cope, strain on marriage and younger children.

It is my nature to "fix" things, but perhaps some things cannot be fixed, as the teen isn't interested in change or a relationship with mom, the best I can hope for is some maturity later in life??? PS - ESTP girlfriend complicates the issue. Any input is appreciated.